Last night DP and I were catching up on a few episodes of Coronation Street that we'd missed. We saw the episode where Steph called her ex's bluff. For those of you that aren't fans, the sleazy ex has been forcing Steph's brother to take part in illegal car races so that he can bet on Steph's brother winning. He did this by showing the brother intimate photos of Steph that he had on his phone and threatening to post them on line.
In the episodes that we watched, Steph finally called the ex's bluff hoping that his decent side would win out. Instead he posted the photos. She was devastated and there have been lots of tears. In one incident Steph kept glancing over at a table of loud, laughing blokes in the bistro where she is a waitress. When she confronted them, asking them what they were looking at they showed her an innocuous photo that one of them had on his phone.
DP pipes up, "I think she's overreacting a bit."
We ended up having rather a heated discussion about this.
I said that loads of women have had their lives ruined by revenge porn. They can have their self-confidence knocked for years and some suffer depression or even become suicidal.
I said that if it happened to me I would be so mortified that I don't think I would want to leave the house. I'm a primary teacher and the thought of walking into school and thinking that some of the parents could have seen the photos would be so humiliating.
DP said that if it happened to him he wouldn't be bothered. He named a few of our mutual female friends and said that if it happened to them and he came across the photos online he wouldn't think anything of it - he wouldn't think anything bad of them and wouldn't make comments. He thought that other blokes coming across photos like that would be the same as him.
So, am I being oversensitive or is he being insensitive?
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cariadlet · 29/11/2015 09:45
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