DP works a lot and will be working long hours over the Christmas period including Christmas day. We have a toddler and I'm 7mnths pregnant with DC2.
MIL isn't in the best of health and is going through a very difficult time just now with a separate issue. She has no one else close by (apart from us). Me and DC are spending Christmas day with my mum, dad and brother after the rest of my family have visited our house on Christmas morning as is our usual tradition.
As MIL would be on her own my mum invited her to spend Christmas day with us. However now DP's brother and SIL have announced they're coming to have Christmas dinner at MIL's. They live very far away. This means we won't see MIL on Christmas day as none of them drive.
DP is going to try and get boxing day off work so we can have that day as our Christmas day just the 3 of us as he'll be lucky to have more than 1 day off over that period.
I feel that we will have to see them on boxing day since they'll be here and we won't have seen MIL. But I really don't want to. I'm extremely precious about me, DP and DC's family time together since we don't get very much of it and especially at Christmas. We definitely see my family more but that is to do with the fact my family all drive (I don't) and come to us.
SIL has form for organising things to suit them with absolutely no consideration for anyone else's wishes or plans and never ever asks if that's okay with us. It's just expected. Luckily they live so far away that it's not too often but when it is we have to drop everything and rearrange our plans to suit them.
For example, next year we have a family (mine) thing that is a couple of hours from them so we thought we'd visit them for a couple of hours. Now SIL has told us they're coming to us and getting a hotel nearby so they can see us! We're not going for long, it'll be our first family trip with the baby and our DS and now they plan on taking up 2 days of our 4 night stay
AIBU to say we have plans for boxing day or should I just suck it up? DP doesn't want to see them and said to say he's working but I know he'll feel guilty and will probably change his mind. Just now I can't think of any other time we can see them when they're here and also MIL.
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AIBU?
To not want to see DP's family on boxing day?
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sparkofnaturesfire · 28/11/2015 12:17
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