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To think the notion of a "Birthday BJ" shouldn't exist.

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MySordidCakeSecret · 26/11/2015 17:32

just that really.. does anyone else have to deal with this bright idea?

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G1veMeStrength · 26/11/2015 17:33

It doesn't exist in my house/life that's for sure.

MySordidCakeSecret · 26/11/2015 17:34

it's DP's birthday and he's mentioned it a lot.. safe to say i'm not too keen!

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ThroughThickAndThin01 · 26/11/2015 17:35

I think my dh mentions this every year Hmm, I think it's happened once Grin

iwantgin · 26/11/2015 17:35

Never heard of it.

DH is lucky to get a card and his breakfast made for him.

Grin

Vixxfacee · 26/11/2015 17:36

So it's such a rare occasion for your dh that it's seen as a treat on his birthday Grin

GastonsChestHair · 26/11/2015 17:38

Dh would never say this to me. He knows there'd be more chance of hell freezing over Hmm

TwatTheNinja · 26/11/2015 17:38

Never heard of it Confused

WorraLiberty · 26/11/2015 17:39

I've never heard of it.

We either have oral sex or we don't.

It has nothing to do with the date on the calender.

MySordidCakeSecret · 26/11/2015 17:41

So it's such a rare occasion for your dh that it's seen as a treat on his birthday

Pretty much! Grin it happens very rarely i suppose his tactic is to try it on and for some reason thinks that on his birthday his chances will be higher... i feel a bit bad though?!

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MovemberSucks · 26/11/2015 17:41

Do you get a birthday BJ/other indulgent sex treat from him? I used to joke about it with H, he would suggest something and I'd say "what, is it your birthday again already?" but I don't recall that he ever seriously expected any particular sexual favours on his birthday.

MySordidCakeSecret · 26/11/2015 17:42

hell no! wouldn't want anything!

oh this is very serious.. in his mind Hmm

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AnyFucker · 26/11/2015 17:43

Is this the same concept as "I'll do the washing up if you give me a blow job" ?

Fuck that. If I feel like doing something and it is greeted enthusiastically then away we go.

If I have to force myself, then it is off the table for both of us.

Grim.

Quatrefoil · 26/11/2015 17:44

How revolting.

I love giving oral sex. As part of a mutual intimate experience.

I would never do it as a 'favour'.

MySordidCakeSecret · 26/11/2015 17:45

i guess.. i think when we were younger a good few yrs ago i kind of went along with it for a bit of a joke.. a few yrs and 2 kids down the line and now i want to leave it behind.. in the past.. where it belongs.

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Sallyingforth · 26/11/2015 17:47

DP has never suggested a sexual treat for his birthday. But then he gets them - and returns them - regularly anyway. It's just part of life isn't it?

TPel · 26/11/2015 17:48

What a revolting attitude - your P not you OP.

AuntieStella · 26/11/2015 17:48

Treating your partner to what they really like on their birthday? Hell yes!

Talking about it as if it's a thing? Umm, no thanks.

PHANTOMnamechanger · 26/11/2015 17:49

If he is pressuring you and dropping hints despite you not wanting to then he is a prize arse, birthday or not. Do not 'feel bad' or be guilt-tripped into it.

EnthusiasmDisturbed · 26/11/2015 17:51

of course not

neither should Steak and BJ day

just nasty

do it because you want to not because you feel you should do or as a treat

Sparklingbrook · 26/11/2015 17:52

Put some frosting on it and stick a lit candle in? Smile

VestalVirgin · 26/11/2015 17:55

I didn't know the notion existed, and I would never have to deal with it because I would end any relationship where the guy thinks he is entitled to any sexual act at all.

AnyFucker · 26/11/2015 17:57

The only response to crap like this is "piss off"

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hibbleddible · 26/11/2015 17:58

I've never heard of it either.

Though I feel sorry for your dh that he feels that this is only a yearly treat!

BaronessSamedi · 26/11/2015 17:59

Why do you want to put it in the past?

XiCi · 26/11/2015 17:59

Hmm, I'm a bit torn. Of course he shouldn't expect it as a given but I love oral and I think if my DH had deprived me of it all year I'd be bloody well trying my luck on my birthday as well!

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