Yes, thread inspired by lots of threads but provoked by the flaming I have just had on one in particular. But not a thread about that particular thread.
It seems lately that it is impossible to have an actual discussion on mn without someone either misinterpreting, misreading, twisting, or generally overreacting to everything
Example: poster starts a lighthearted thread about something which it should be obvious that it is lighthearted. A few posts in someone decides to take it very seriously and give the op a flaming. A few more posts in and someone suggests the thread title should be edited by mn hq to ensure people realise it's lighthearted, even though the subject was something like "ibu to burn the house down because I found a spider in the bathroom?"
Or: "ibu to think it's the end of the world because dh ate the chocolate?" response: "there are children dying in the world how dare you even post about chocolate," meant very seriously.
And yes, on the thread I was just on, recounting an incident 35 years ago where my cousin sent out fake invitations to a party unbeknowns to his parents and children turned up. 
obviously mortifying at the time but 35 years on it's something that his friends remember and laugh at, something which was brought up in his best man's wedding speech, and yes, something which 35 years on is amusing in a "OMG his parents were mortified," way. And yet I have just been told I am sick in the head for finding children's utter devastation over a party they didn't attend 35 years ago amusing.
Mn has always been supportive but has also always had a reputation for being amusing, funny, lighthearted etc, but it is rapidly losing that reputation IMO.
AIBU?
To think that there is a serious lack of perspective on mn now to the point it is not actually possible to have a decent discussion any more?
wannaBe · 26/11/2015 14:29
Oh, LTB, ODFOD, YABU, FOTFSOFATFOSM (I think), are you on glue? 
I do know what you mean, have been on the sharp end of some posts and pms and am, frankly, horrified by some of the responses on some threads.
My favorite at the moment is a demand for an update... very peremptory... treating the OPs story as personal amusement and entertainment. I have managed not to respond, this time!
There are a few massive arseholes about, that much is true. They're best ignored, I find, but YANBU in observing the general quality of conversation having gone down because of the kind of posting you're describing. What's worse is the gaggle of fans who swoop in to galvanise the arseholes, it's pathetic. Glad to get that off my chest .
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yes agree it's the level of aggression on here. Mn has always had a reputation for being somewhat robust in delivery of opinions but it's reached a new low.
So we no longer just get the response of "yabu," now we get, "yabu, and a cunt." there really is no need.
It was a full moon last night wannabe
It's not very nice saying to someone are you sick in the head, is it? :(
I think sometimes pull you up with the best intentions (which is fine) but I do wince a bit at some of the comments which are just there to incite a reaction or prove a point (usually over something trivial)
Incidentally I actually have a hand written note on my fridge to a girl's birthday party for my youngest son. I keep looking at it like this 
I'm not sure whether it's real or not!
Yanbu at all.
There are some vile posters on here.
Only yesterday i was told i should be sectioned if i can't be without my dh because i dared to disagree 
But this is a supportive place!
I don't think it is anything new
I think you start to become more aware of what threads will turn out that way and stay away. some I am still surprised at, how the You're So Vain thread turned last week took me by surprise
there are a few sheep on here one starts and others join in its pathetic and it causes some to leave which is a shame as mn can be so supportive
We need a Big Purple Joke emoticon for all those posters challenged in the humour department. 
And a flameproof elephant hide suit to pull on whenever we decide to remove the Michael from said posters.
And plenty of 
and 
to fortify us while we're doing it.
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