This is very very trivial but it’s causing me massive amounts of stress!
So I’m not drip feeding I have a long long history of eating disorders – anorexia/bulimia/compulsive over-exercising etc, and after slipping back into old terrible habits I’ve been working really really hard on it of late.
There is a woman in my office who is lovely but forever commenting on what I’m eating/quantity/how I cooked it etc etc etc. Ie today I missed breakfast (BAD) and in an attempt to break habits went and bought lunch from a sandwhich shop that makes them to order, this is a big deal - it wasn’t something I’d made from home with perfectly measured ingredients. So that felt like I’d had a mini achievement that I’d gone and bought that and was enjoying eating it.
She comes hawking over going ‘ooo that’s a lot of food I don’t know where you put it’ etc and asking tonnes and tonnes of questions about what was in it. Suddenly I find myself trying to justify to myself what I had for lunch, desperately trying to work out how much blumming hummous they put in my hummous salad wrap, trying to work out if I can move around my weekends menu to have my lighter dinner tonight.
My issue really is that she does it a lot. Whatever I’ve got for lunch comes with questions ‘ooo what’s that/did you make it yourself/how much time do you spend cooking’ etc, even if I’ve eaten somewhere else she’ll bring up ‘oh go anywhere nice for lunch/have anything nice?’ every blumming day. I’ve no idea if she does this to other people but I actually find a lot of it really triggering. Feeling like I’ve been told off for eating too much or ‘praised’ when I’ve eaten something she says looks healthy or whatever. I really do get that she is just making conversation, but I still find food a really pressured subject.
AIBU to find her perfectly innocent comments really upsetting?! I also really want to ask her not to but I also don’t want the whole office knowing I've got issues!
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lastqueenofscotland · 23/11/2015 14:31
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