Am I gullible

(36 Posts)
mayyourtongueturnblack Wed 18-Nov-15 19:30:58

I have name changed .A woman at work who has as lot of previous for telling rather large lies and little lies has said her niece was killed in the Paris attack .
When mentioned to two other people they raised their eyes and said "really "
I had believed her up to this point but and here's the but .
She said originally she was at the concert with her boyfriend then it changed after people at work started asking awkward questions .to one of the cafes.She also said that her name wouldn't be on the official list as her aunty had asked that it not be due to family discord
.People at work want to raise money for charity and put her nieces name forward as a sort cause.
She has said to them she didn't want to use her name .She said her niece didn't have a Facebook page .She was 24.
Now obviously it is none of my business if she chooses to lie as obviously she is struggling with her life if she chooses too.lie so spectacularly But my question is am I gullible ?Would you believe her given her track record of proven liar .

RaspberrySwitchblade Wed 18-Nov-15 19:35:37

I used to work with a compulsive liar

The stories she told were always linked to news, films and at her worst 'inspired' by other colleagues' life events

If people are saying your colleague tells untruths, I would go with them. They wouldn't have any mileage in making that up, would they?

ConstanceMarkYaBitch Wed 18-Nov-15 19:36:34

She's lying. If you believe her, yes you are a bit gullible. Sorry.

Jhm9rhs Wed 18-Nov-15 19:38:00

I wouldn't believe her.

VimFuego101 Wed 18-Nov-15 19:38:30

I can smell the bullshit from here.

Enjolrass Wed 18-Nov-15 19:41:48

She is lying. And yes you are gullible. Especially since she has form for it.

I worked with a girl like this. She got pregnant, had an abortion and was pregnant again all in the space of one week confused

iklboo Wed 18-Nov-15 19:42:16

She's a grief vampire trying to revel in the outpourings of sympathy. If other colleagues have eye-rolled she's probably got form for 'losing' friends and relatives in disasters & atrocities.

I knew someone similar who had claimed to have known or been related to people killed in everything from Herald of Free Enterprise sinking, to Hillsborough, to 9/11.

AnyFucker Wed 18-Nov-15 19:43:25

that sounds like bollocks to me

wasonthelist Wed 18-Nov-15 19:43:43

Not getting somethinb here - people at work say she's a liar, but want to raise money for her neice who they think she is lying about?

DontBuyANewMumCashmere Wed 18-Nov-15 19:43:45

I fucking hate people like this. Have worked with several. I never let them think I believe their bullshit, and if at all possible I challenge what they've told me if it changes, or if I find out they've told someone something else.
I kind of feel sorry for their attention seeking behaviour as you've got to be fairly screwed up to lie all the time about everything, but I just find it all so tedious.

Personally, if she's always lying and you really don't believe her, I'd call her on it, all the inconsistencies, and let her back herself into a corner. Then I'd ignore her bullshit and let her know I think she's a liar.

mayyourtongueturnblack Wed 18-Nov-15 19:44:09

I felt mean for disbelieving her in the first place .DOH

mayyourtongueturnblack Wed 18-Nov-15 19:45:50

Was in maybe more people disbelieve her than I thought.

MiniCooperLover Wed 18-Nov-15 19:46:26

I'm sorry but it does sound like she's lying blush I worked with an American lady who I was very good friends with over a few years and eventually she told me her husband, who was an ex-fireman, died in 9/11 and I believed her because she was believable. She said she'd moved to the UK to escape the memories. We worked in law!

But over time people started saying to me 'she's lying to you' but I would defend her as I felt surely no- one would ever lie about this. Eventually, after her being burgled for God knows how many times, her mothers death (twice) I started to realise why her daughter lives in HK and had nothing to do with her (the only truth I think she ever told me) confused

MsJamieFraser Wed 18-Nov-15 19:46:44

I know loads of 24 year olds who dont have facebook, so possibly true.

if she has facebook I would try and find a link or a "nice quote" and saying something along the lines of, been thinking of your niece today, my thoughts are with her family and friends, then put #prayforparis

But no I don't think it would be true... and it is something that really management needs to address,

JeffsanArsehole Wed 18-Nov-15 19:47:08

She said she was at the concert where 89 people were gunned down shock

That's so, so bad. I'd tell your bosses and let them deal with it.

KeepOnMoving1 Wed 18-Nov-15 19:47:57

I worked with someone like that , complete nut job. People did warn me though, I believed a bit till the lies became so outrageous.

Hygge Wed 18-Nov-15 19:48:23

I wouldn't say you were gullible for believing her at first, especially if you weren't aware there was a history of lying or tall stories from her.

But as her story changed I would think most people would pick up on the inconsistencies and oddities about it and start to suspect she wasn't telling the truth.

What a vile thing to lie about though. I never understand people who want to climb on the bandwagon of tragedy.

SurlyCue Wed 18-Nov-15 19:50:29

What a disgusting person she is! Who the hell does that? What is wrong with some people? hmm

mayyourtongueturnblack Wed 18-Nov-15 19:56:29

Some of her previous lies have been about me Lol but it didn't occur to me that she would lie.

PurpleDaisies Wed 18-Nov-15 19:57:01

I would be deeply suspicious. Some people just love attention and will do anything to get it. It is really pathetic.

mayyourtongueturnblack Wed 18-Nov-15 19:58:37

Jef not her personally at the concert, her niece was there the first time she told me .I put the inconsistency down to it being in Paris and the confusion of it all

AnUtterIdiot Wed 18-Nov-15 20:01:43

Sounds like porkies to me too. I tend to believe people until they give me reason not to but I don't find it credible that her name wasn't on the official list because her aunt asked them not to (especially not because of "family discord").

pinotblush Wed 18-Nov-15 20:04:33

It doesn't make you gullible. It makes you a nice person. Nothing wrong with that.

FindoGask Wed 18-Nov-15 20:09:35

I think it's a form of mental illness really; I've known a few people who have done this, one friend at university and a few adults with various degrees of learning difficulty that I have worked with.

She can't help it - that's where the 'compulsive' in compulsive liar comes from. She needs understanding rather than abuse.

expatinscotland Wed 18-Nov-15 20:14:02

She's a compulsive liar. Don't give her money.

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