To say no stilettos?!!

(99 Posts)
RosieLig Sun 01-Nov-15 21:51:33

I'm in a quandary.....

We have a lovely original wooden floor in our house. Last time we had a Christmas party someone wore really spikey shoes and you could see where she had been standing as there were dents all over the floor.

We take the rug up as it's pale and we don't want wine splashes on it.

I really cringe at putting something on the invite but equally I don't want my lovely old floors trashed.

WWYD? Am I being too Hyacinth?! First world problem, I know....

Eebahgum Sun 01-Nov-15 21:58:53

Just put it. So what if you're being hyacinth? You won't enjoy the party if you're stressing about your floor all night.

whois Sun 01-Nov-15 22:02:54

I think you have to say on the invite/email.

It's not like people are going to think "I can't believe Rosie is banning me from damaging her floor, what a bitch"

Tuiles Sun 01-Nov-15 22:05:14

Can you get some of those plastic stiletto covers and discretely hand them to any offenders?

flixybelle Sun 01-Nov-15 22:10:34

YANBU Just tell people to take their shoes off or not to wear heels at all. I have a friend who has a beautiful wooden floor and she asks everyone to take high heels off before going into that room. Never had an issue with it, I would be mortified if I damaged her floor with my shoes.

Pipbin Sun 01-Nov-15 22:11:52

Didn't we have exactly the same question last year?

I agree with saying it in the invitation so people make sure that they don't have holes in their tights.

Littlefish Sun 01-Nov-15 22:12:37

I wish we'd done it. A friend of ours completely ruined our brand new and expensive rubber floor with her stilletoes.

WhyCantIuseTheNameIWant Sun 01-Nov-15 22:12:43

Get some of those cheap hotel-freebie slippers and put them by your front door. Everybody leaves their shoes by the door and wears the soft slippers.
No damage. No offence.

CruCru Sun 01-Nov-15 22:14:24

I wish I'd done it. We had a party and the next day you could see where one guests shoes had been. Ugh.

petitdonkey Sun 01-Nov-15 22:14:58

I'm going to disagree! I am a stiletto wearer and would hate to get all dressed up for a Christmas party and have to take my shoes off. Would you allow heels but just not stilettos???

We entertain a lot and have never asked anyone to take their shoes off - I love all the marks in my floor - its a sign of a party house!! (and we laid that floor new, wenge so shows everything!)

whois Sun 01-Nov-15 22:19:10

I'm going to disagree! I am a stiletto wearer and would hate to get all dressed up for a Christmas party and have to take my shoes off. Would you allow heels but just not stilettos???

But if you knew in advance, then you could get all dressed up in shoes that wouldn't damage the floor couldn't you?

shutupanddance Sun 01-Nov-15 22:19:46

I would'nt. i think lots of people would be annoyed at having their outfit ruined by taking shoes off. However, my shoes usually cone off when they hurt anyway!

shutupanddance Sun 01-Nov-15 22:20:30

But if you knew in advance, then you could get all dressed up in shoes that wouldn't damage the floor couldn't you?

I think lots pf women wear heels for parties?

Pipbin Sun 01-Nov-15 22:23:21

Would you allow heels but just not stilettos???
Block heels don't damage a floor like stilettos because stilettos concentrate your weight in one area.

susielovessocks Sun 01-Nov-15 23:05:25

I'd just pop a note on the front door explaining. I've done it myself...to my own floor...not my finest hour.

specialsubject Sun 01-Nov-15 23:23:09

cover the floor.

they'll take the fugly things off in 20 mins because they hurt so much (look what happens at weddings!) but too late by then.

RosieLig Sun 01-Nov-15 23:28:27

Thanks all... Now thinking I might just text the two most likely offenders and keep it off the invite. One is a good friend and will be totally cool about it, not so sure about the other one.....

I can't cover the floor - it's a big room. We did put down temporary parquet for our 40th as we had had dancing but it was pricey and was mainly due to the dancing.

RosieLig Sun 01-Nov-15 23:29:17

ps yes normal heels are fine just not those drawing pin sized ones.

sky1010 Sun 01-Nov-15 23:34:46

I would send a breezy text to a few of the women attending 'glad you can make it! sorry to be all hyacinth but last party our floor got damaged by spikey heels, if you could avoid wearing stiletto heels it would be massively appreciated xxx'

It's not a big deal. People will be cool with it if you are upfront and give them a bit of a warning. You would be U if you expected people to get dressed up for a party then take their shoes off at the door in exchange for a pair of slippers.

RosieLig Sun 01-Nov-15 23:36:37

Think I'll do that sky, thanks. No way am I dishing out slippers at the door- don't even wear them myself!

Nettletheelf Mon 02-Nov-15 00:16:10

There was a similar question on Graham Norton's 'grill Graham' agony aunt spot last year (on his radio 2 show).

Listeners get to call in with answers. The best replies said, why put something so precious and delicate on your floor where people are going to walk on it?

I wouldn't feel relaxed going to a party at a house with strict footwear restrictions. I'd assume that the hosts were a bit anal, sorry!!

RosieLig Mon 02-Nov-15 06:52:11

Hi yes fair point but actually we didn't put it in the floor! It's the original beautiful over 200 year floor boards! They are lovely.

I am relaxed about everything else. We've had wine splashed up the wall and poured on rugs. The dog has chewed plenty in our house. But I definitely clench at the thought of those floor boards grin

noeffingidea Mon 02-Nov-15 06:58:14

Can't believe some people are selfish enough to deliberately wear shoes that will damage someone elses floor.
I'd just text them or put it on the invites. If they still turn up with them on I'd ask them to remove them and if they didn't I'd just tell them to piss off.

Pseudo341 Mon 02-Nov-15 06:58:49

I know plenty of people who just insist everyone take their shoes off at the door. Why do people need to wear shoes in someone's house? Nobody walks round their own house in shoes. Personally I wouldn't invite anyone to a party who was going to be an arse about not being allowed to damage my property. I do see the point about not buying new floor coverings that are so fragile, but surely everyone can show some respect for something that's 200 years old?!

WipsGlitter Mon 02-Nov-15 07:21:17

Fe some of those heel covers and give them to people. As long as people know in advance.

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