AIBU, the MIL iinvites us to dinner but gives us lunch

[Greensmiff]

We are having meat and rolls, my DH's favourite. But it's lunch not dinner, or is it just me?

[MrsMook]

If it's cold, it's not a dinner. Especially at lunchtime.

[yorkshapudding]

I agree it's a bit mean (and also a bit lazy) to invite someone to dinner and serve sandwiches but I'm sure others be along any minute to accuse you of "MIL bashing" and being "entitled" for expecting a hot meal

[OnlyThePurpleOnes]

Yep, just you. Maybe you could agree a menu in advance next time?

[mrsmalcolmreynolds]

What time is it being served? Unless it's not the time you were originally told or there's not going to be enough food, I don't really see the problem?

[Tiredemma]

sounds like a 'snack' to me.

[elementofsurprise]

I've always thought the same as MrsMook... but depending on where in the country you are plus an influence from (sorry) social class, apparenty "dinner" can mean the midday meal regardless!

[expatinscotland]

It's just you.

[NerrSnerr]

What time is she serving it? Afternoon or evening? I call the afternoon meal dinner whether it's a sandwich or a hot meal.

[GabiSolis]

Does it matter?! It's still food!

[MrsBranestawm]

If you're having it right now, it's brunch isn't it?

[Tarzanlovesgaby]

food is food.

[Morganly]

It's tea. They probs have a cooked lunch.

[RedButtonhole]

What time is it being served at?

I would have meat and rolls, or a sandwich or something at dinner time. Usually about 12.30pm.

Wouldn't have a hot meal at dinnertime unless it was soup, toastie etc.

[Stratter5]

What now? Isn't that elevenses?

[scalliondays]

Well at least you have a lovely pudding to look forwards to - you did offer to take one didn't you?

[Bunbaker]

Haven't you got anything more important to worry about?

I agree that it depends on the region and/or social class as to what the midday meal is called.

MIL is from the north east and a cooked meal at midday is dinner. I am from the south east and the midday meal is lunch, regardless of whether it is a sandwich or a three course meal.

To me dinner is either school dinners or a posh evening meal.

Normally, in our house, the evening meal is tea regardless of what time it is served or whether it is cooked or not. We do have the occasional (very informal) dinner party though.

[bakingaddict]

What time are you expected to be there? Is it a dinner/tea or lunch/dinner confusion.

[ThatsDissapointing]

Id call meat rolls lunch but I'd call a cooked meal at lunchtime lunch too. Dinner only happens in the evening ....or at school.

I think serving meat rolls for a daytime meal is perfect and if they are your DHs favourite then I can see why your MIL has served them.

YABU (assuming they are nice)

[NeedsAsockamnesty]

It is your DH's favourite she is his mother, she is likely to know this piece of information.

Therefore no matter how odd I think it is,it is perfectly acceptable

[yorkshapudding]

Where I'm from the word "dinner" invariably means a hot meal, usually something along the lines of a roast, so it would be a bit strange to invite someone for dinner and then serve sandwiches but I can see from other posters that this obviously isn't the case everywhere so I retract my earlier post!

[Oysterbabe]

Breakfast
Lunch
Dinner
Irrespective of what is served in this house.

What time is the meal? I think serving rolls for dinner is a bit crap but I doubt I'd care much.

[GreyBird84]

I'm with needasock. Your MIL has made DH favourite for dinner. Pretty normal IMO.

[sleeponeday]

I don't really understand the question, because language varies so much on meals.

We eat lunch in the middle of the day, and supper in the evening, and dinner is a big meal in the evening you ask people to, so if she asked you for a dinner one evening and then served up baps, I can see why you are , but then again she is family, and your DH loves them, so not a big deal.

If you are asking why she asked you for a midday meal and gave you sarnies, and because she called it dinner (hot meal) and you think a cold one should be called lunch, I don't really see a problem, either. It's just a word, and she uses different ones to you. Not a big thing.

Is it that she is winding you up so much that all she does grates, or something? This does seem fine, tbh.