This is kind of inspired by another thread as it got me thinking that it's coming up to Christmas and I will be getting a gift from my sister where there has been no thought whatsoever put into it. It's got to the stage where I honestly would rather not have anything as it's quite upsetting that she can't put two minutes into thinking of something I would actually like.
She spends £5 on me and our brother each. It does not deviate from this and the gifts are generally from a supermarket when she's shopping (that's not an issue which I'll come to in a minute!). She's not flush for cash but not struggling either. When shopping she'll bulk buy male/female gifts then decide later who's getting what.
I am VERY different to this with gift buying and take time to think about what each person would like and shop around. I don't have a set amount I spend as it depends on what I want to buy them. This really isn't about the money spent though. It's more about that she wouldn't even spend £2 more even if it was on something I would actually like.
As she gets her shopping from the supermarket mostly, I have said to her more than once to get me a fiver bottle of wine for Christmas (after years of awful presents). I would be DELIGHTED with this. But she doesn't.
A few years ago I got a cuddly toy thing in a box with bubble bath. I didn't have a bath at the time. We see each other all the time so she knows this!
It's a running joke in our family about how awful her presents are as she's the same with everyone.
She continually gets our mum perfume/body spray sets when she's been told for years that she can't wear anything like that due to her sensitive skin. She doesn't ever wear any perfume.
I feel that the money she spends is a waste because it's always crap that just gathers dust so I would really rather have nothing then I'm not constantly disappointed or hurt by the lack of thought. Every year I always hope that this is the year she has actually thought about the gift but it never happens. It's as if it's a tick box exercise with her where she buys the right number of gifts then can say that's her done her Christmas shopping. Invariably all the females/males get the same gifts but relating to their gender i.e. impulse or lynx sets.
Am I being ungrateful??
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To rather not have any gifts from my sister?
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sunnyteacup · 10/10/2015 14:42
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