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AIBU?

To be hurt one of my best friends is not coming to my ds party because she's doing diy

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Oddnoddle · 07/10/2015 13:36

Been a difficult few years for various reasons
Having. Party for our sons birthday and one of my friends has said she won't be coming as she's doing diy

There's no emergency reason why this diy needs doing urgently
And tbh it's hurt my feelings

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scatterthenuns · 07/10/2015 13:37

Does she have kids?

I wonder if the answer is no and she just doesn't get how important it is to you.

RiverTam · 07/10/2015 13:38

Is your friend's DC a friend of your DS's? Tbh, she doesn't have to give you a reason, she could have just said they couldn't make it.
How old are the DC - could she drop off?

Oddnoddle · 07/10/2015 13:38

OH and just for info, it's only two only two hours and it's at lunchtime

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Crispbutty · 07/10/2015 13:38

Most adults wouldn't really want to go to a child's party though. If she works then weekends are probably the only time she can do diy

Oddnoddle · 07/10/2015 13:39

No she's my friend and the party is at our house

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DoJo · 07/10/2015 13:40

How old is your son?

whatyouseeiswhatyouget · 07/10/2015 13:43

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Oddnoddle · 07/10/2015 13:44

He will be two and we couldn't have a party last year as I was in hospital

I know a two year olds party is not most people idea of fun, hell' it's not even mine, but I do it for others
It's only a small party at home for two hours

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ShatnersBassoon · 07/10/2015 13:44

I wouldn't fancy a kid's party in the middle of the day. I'm not mad keen on them and would only go if I was taking my own child. They're usually boring for adults.

sharonthewaspandthewineywall · 07/10/2015 13:44

I wouldn't go to friends kids parties unless my kids were going. My brother hasn't even been to any of his nieces or nephews parties.

BackforGood · 07/10/2015 13:45

Im more surprised you think that an adult would want to go to a child's birthday party.
I certainly wouldn't expect to have to go to a child's birthday party if it weren't my iece or nephew.

Oddnoddle · 07/10/2015 13:46

Back for good I don't think that

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Branleuse · 07/10/2015 13:46

if she hasnt got a child, why would she come? Surely a childs birthday party is hell for most adults

fleurdelacourt · 07/10/2015 13:46

need more info.

but generally expecting an adult to attend a kids party is... unusual.

caravanista13 · 07/10/2015 13:46

Of course you're upset. Parties for two year olds are much more about the adults than the children. I'd be hurt if a friend didn't want to help celebrate a special day.

dreadingautumn · 07/10/2015 13:46

I wouldn't go to a friends child's birthday party unless I had a child the same age. It's a party for your son and is friends and it's really not fun or interesting to anyone else other than him and immediate family. She probably doesn't want to spend 2 hours of her weekend in a house full of toddlers

PeopleLieActionsDont · 07/10/2015 13:47

Children's parties are for their friends and keen grannies. I wouldn't expect my friends to attend my dcs parties.
The party is important to you, but her diy is important to her!

RiverTam · 07/10/2015 13:47

Oh, so there's no child involved. YABU im afraid, I wouldn't expect a childless adult to prioritise my DD's birthday party.

PurpleDaisies · 07/10/2015 13:48

I suspect the reason she's doing diy is because of the party. Forvlotsvof people without kids (tbh a fair few with kids as well) a two year old's party is the closest thing to hell on earth.

She's your friend, not your son's. I don't think she's unreasonable in not coming to the party.

BarbarianMum · 07/10/2015 13:48

Please don't take her refusal personally. If you'd like to catch up with her tell her that, and arrange a more grown up occasion (coffee/lunch/drink).

fredfredgeorgejnrsnr · 07/10/2015 13:48

YABU, sorry, if you want a party for her to attend, have a party, invite her, she'd be unreasonable (or just not really a friend) to decline for little reason.

If you want a party for a 2 year old, don't expect people other than the 2 year olds friends to attend, throwing a party you don't think would be enjoyable, or going to parties you don't think would be enjoyable is a bit odd.

Oddnoddle · 07/10/2015 13:48

Well if I was invited to a kids party by a v good friend, even if I didn't really fancy it, I would do it for them and think to myself well it's only a couple of hours plus I need to eat anyway....

I guess I think you do things for others

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Costacoffeeplease · 07/10/2015 13:49

I agree, a two year old's birthday party is my idea of hell, would you prefer it if she'd made a different excuse?

Scobberlotcher · 07/10/2015 13:49

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JimmyGreavesMoustache · 07/10/2015 13:49

i wouldn't expect a childfree friend to come to my DC's parties

if they were a REALLY good friend I might ask them over to eat the leftover cake and sweets with a glass of wine once all the other hyped up kids had gone

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