So, recently I posted about issues with my mum guilt tripping etc. This post is about a situation with my Ohs mum.
Situation: 2.5 years ago our DD was born. Everyone came to see her in a typical gathering. There was my Mum, Step dad, OHs mum, brother and OH and my OHs sister. We're all sat in our living room, cooing over new baby. Nice time, everyone leaves.
2 days later we get a knock at our front door. A young girl from social services. Basically they'd received a report of a child in danger at this address. A witness claimed to have seen me holding my daughters nose closed, stopping her breathing. Something I absolutely and categorically denied, what an abhorrent accusation.
The girl from social interviewed us for an hour, had me show her how i feed LO, how o burp LO, how i change LO etc etc. Once she was satisfied my daughter was okay and in no danger she left. Oddly my OH knew straight away it was her mum that had called them. Just in case i had my GF call everyone that was there that day and ask if they had seen anything worrying about how I was handling my LO, no one had anything but praise for my gentleness, care, feeding technique, burping, changing etc. Eventually my OH called her mum, it turns out my ohs mum had rung "someone" for advice because she didn't like how I was handling my little girl and that she "didn't realise" she'd been speaking to social services.
Luckily we got our HV involved immediately who visited, went through everything with us, made sure I knew how to hold, feed, burp etc and she visited us a few times after that to check on me and she even spoke to the social services etc. We eventually got a letter after almost 2 months of worry, stress etc saying no further action.
Needless to say we all fell out about it for a while, eventually my OH started speaking with her mum again, though she didn't and has not apologised. I haven't forgiven her though and she has never even attempted to apologise to me. He basically thinks she was in the right, she saw something no one else did and that she was absolutely correct in calling the social services and not having a quiet word with my OH a the time.
So AIBU to tell her to do one, want nothing to do with her, refuse to speak to her etc? (I'd never stop my LO or my OH seeing her though)
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Eveysdad · 05/10/2015 11:02
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