Got back from hols 2 weeks ago. Big trip, v exciting (to us!). Spoke to Dm the day after we got back and she was dismissive, very 'we've been there. Seen that' so I felt deflated. Haven't rung her since.
DD started new school last week and ds went back to school yesterday - no call/email/text from DM or DDad (but DM usually contacts us).
Dm rang last night and asked how everything was. I said I felt hurt that she didn't listen to me and didn't seem interested in the dc. (My dsis lives close to Dm and Ddad and they see a lot of her dc). Dm said she had no idea and that she was sorry, treats us the same, etc.
I was crying on the phone to dm last night and then ddad came on phone to talk to me. First thing he said was, how was your holiday? I just said, it was 2 weeks ago!! (Thought: If you were interested then maybe you could have rung then?) Put down phone, upset.
AIBU? Am I over-reacting? There is a history of dm not listening, this isn't the first occurrence. Not sure whether I'm being pathetic here or not. I don't feel listened to. I don't think dm thins as much of my dc as she does of her other gc. And that makes me feel bad.
Feel sad for the dc that their only GPs didn't give enough of a toss to ring them and wish them good luck for school too. We live 500 miles apart and saw DPs for a week at start of school hols, after they'd come back from holiday, and they were full of their holiday and talked about it a lot when we saw them. Which is fair enough. But I'd like the same courtesy too.
Advice? We don't usually talk about things in our family, just sweep them under the carpet, but I would like to deal with this in an adult way and move on. Worried I might feel uncomfortable on phone to them from now on - they pretending to be interested in what we're doing because I've told them they're not interested enough?
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CocktailQueen · 08/09/2015 07:55
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