Came in from a night out with DP last night. Had a bit to drink but both relatively sober.
He sits down and puts on a documentry about Kate Bush.
I sit next to him and watch it with him.
After half an hour or so I start up the following conversation:
me: "I don't really get Kate Bush - I mean, I don't get why she's so famous and everyone thinks she's so amazing ... "
him: "well, they don't. you're watching a documentry on her so obviously they'll all be saying positive things."
me: "oh yeah I know, I'm just saying in general I just can't understand why she's as big as she is, I mean what is special about her?"
him: "oh well I'll turn it off then."
me: "??? no I'm not saying turn it off! I'm just saying I don't get it ... "
him: "yeah well you don't like anything I like so I'll just turn it off."
me: "I'm not wanting an argument over it! I was just trying to start up a conversation!"
him: "well it's a trend with you isn't it, anything I like you don't like so I might as well just turn it off."
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I'm really, REALLY considering giving up on this relationship because this is the kind of response I get whenever I express an opnion or try and start up a conversation. It's walking on egg shells all the time. I've just tried to speak to him about it now and he said I should have approached it more diplomatically. I asked for an example and he suggested:
"You like Kate Bush Don't you? I much prefer ((insert artist here)) as ((insert reason here)) "
I mean is that really what relationships are about? a systematic approach to conversation??
I'm ready for the truth here. Tell it to me straight, is it me or him?
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Where did this conversation go wrong? is it me or him??
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WykeSprite · 06/09/2015 09:08
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