children (35 years old) will not work or study

(59 Posts)
apibeeman Sat 05-Sep-15 16:26:34

My wife has a married daughter both her and her Chinese husband are 35 years old they don't study, work or in fact do anything useful, get up after mid day, play computer games and sponge off us, for last two and a half years. I have had enough, is that unreasonable.

ImperialBlether Sat 05-Sep-15 16:27:32

Stop giving them any money! Why would you do that?

Sirzy Sat 05-Sep-15 16:27:39

Where do they live?

And why is her husbands nationality relevant?

apibeeman Sat 05-Sep-15 16:27:43

OK so how do I get them out?

ImperialBlether Sat 05-Sep-15 16:27:56

Do they live with you?

apibeeman Sat 05-Sep-15 16:28:41

Because Chinese are known for their hard work.

apibeeman Sat 05-Sep-15 16:29:31

Yes they live in 80% of our house

Limer Sat 05-Sep-15 16:30:56

Do they pay you any rent? Are they on JSA?

ShakesBootyFlabWobbles Sat 05-Sep-15 16:32:36

It INU to have had enough. If you are enabling this behaviour and allow the sponging, then you need to stop.

Give them one/two month's notice to find alternative accommodation.

Nationality is irrelevant to this question.

NerrSnerr Sat 05-Sep-15 16:34:16

It's not unreasonable at all. Very difficult with family but I think you need to be honest and say you can no longer support them. Do they get jsa?

Stop giving them money and turn off the wifi. Padlock the fridge.

In extremis, wait until they are out and change the locks. If they are not tenants, they don't have any rights, as far as I know.

BestZebbie Sat 05-Sep-15 16:39:51

Is there any particular reason why they have ended up in this position? (bankruptcy, mental or physical health issues, an arrangement to house them whilst they saved up, etc)

Murfles Sat 05-Sep-15 16:40:49

Of course YABU, to still have them under your roof! WTF have they done since they were 16?

apibeeman Sat 05-Sep-15 16:42:51

They give my wife Pounds 150/month for the two of them but everything else is free. The daughter gets pounds 300/month allowance but what I find amazing is they don't even look for work.

IguanaTail Sat 05-Sep-15 16:43:10

Sell up and move.

sooperdooper Sat 05-Sep-15 16:44:50

Seriously, I'm calling BS on the op, this is nonsense

apibeeman Sat 05-Sep-15 16:46:58

They were in China and two and a half years ago turned up on the doorstep. He has no skills and as far as I know has never worked and she can speak many languages but for some reason lacks confidence to work, and has never had a job.

hesterton Sat 05-Sep-15 16:47:28

How long have you been married to this woman?

Who owns the house?

Whose money is paying the daughter's £300 allowance?

Nonnainglese Sat 05-Sep-15 16:48:28

Oh DF's, what do you think OP?

Talk about stating the proverbial bleeding obvious, sounds like another troll.....

hesterton Sat 05-Sep-15 16:48:30

Did she bring the daughter up herself or was the daughter brought up in China while her mum was in the UK?

apibeeman Sat 05-Sep-15 16:50:37

It upsets me to see them do so little, to the point now I am just getting very angry every time I see them.

IguanaTail Sat 05-Sep-15 16:51:16

Where do they live the other 20% of the time?

Does your wife see there's a problem? Or is she enabling them? Would she back you up if you decided to get tough with them?

triathlon Sat 05-Sep-15 16:52:18

biscuit

ollieplimsoles Sat 05-Sep-15 16:52:23

what the fuck?

If this is real just get them out of there?!

Tell your wife you can't take it any more and you don't want them living in your house, they sound like they have skills- perfectly capable of finding work themselves..

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