I work with a friend, in a very small company, and because we are in each other's pockets all the time I told her in strictest confidence that I was pregnant. I have felt I needed to do this because I have horrid morning sickness and have been late in a few times as a result. I realise now this was a mistake.
Last night as I was leaving the office, another colleague was emptying the coffee pot which made me retch, and I made a quick apology to which he replied "oh, yeah, Friend told me you were pregnant".
AIBU to be absolutely furious with her? It appears that she told everyone at work behind my back, starting with the boss. And she knows I have had a miscarriage recently, so this is not news I was planning on sharing with people any time soon (I am just over 6 weeks).
Apart form being so, so angry at the betrayal of trust, I feel like she has taken away my chance to tell people. I have had IVF to get this baby, and have been waiting nearly 5 years to be able to tell people "I'm pregnant!". Also that was our only embryo and there are no siblings in the freezer so this is the only pregnancy I'll ever get to announce, and she's taken it away from me.
I' have confronted her and she said she felt this was "the best thing to do at the time". It pains me that in her mind "the interests of the company" were more important than our friendship.
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to wish my friend hadn't told everyone at work I was pregnant behind my back?
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ToesAndFingersCrossed · 03/09/2015 10:00
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