We lost dd2 in jan to T18. I had a tfmr at 22+2 as her conditional was incompatible with life/lethal.
It has been the hardest road. I cannot describe the pain and emotion. I have been seeing a specialist counsellor and have dealt/ am dealing with my grief, anxiety about dd1 and a whole range of past issues. It's going well. I am starting to feel like I can live this new life and come to terms with things.
Dh and I always said we would try for another after dd2s due date. I was desperate to have another. Now, 4 cycles of trying (I'm aware it's not long at all) the desperation has gone. I have a wonderful dd1 who is 3.
I am wavering between thinking it would be fine if she grew up as an only, all the benefits that go with having one. I struggle with the baby stage anyway. I am terrified of being pregnant again. I've developed a fear of fetal medicine docs/midwives/hospitals etc (despite that face that my care throughout dd2 diagnosis and birth was absolutely faultless and wonderful).
However, I see pictures of friends with their newborns, read benign threads here about 'am I going into labour' etc and cry. I may never have that again. Even if I do have another, I won't have that. My pregnancy will be 9 months of worry and anxiety and god knows how I'll deal with a baby.
So, after that stupidly long post. I'm sick of going round in circles. AIBU to ask you guys to just decide for me so I can come to terms with the decision?
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KittyandTeal · 31/08/2015 19:15
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