If you lived as a two with a very close friend and her boyfriend moved from (say) Lincoln to Scotland (ie totally new area) to be with her, renting a flat round the corner...
But
- He stayed in your flat for 2 months while searching for a place
- When he found a place he would come to your house regularly to cook/wash his clothes/sleep (4/5 times per week)
- He was occasionally there without her and you'd walk in to your seemingly empty house to find him watching TV there
- You went away and he slept in your empty house by himself despite having a perfectly good (albeit less nice) room of his own v v nearby
- He slept by himself in the house a few nights while you were there, without her (she was away on hol)
He doesn't pay bills as is working for a min wage job.
Friend has not outlined intentions to you at the beginning of this arrangement but you come to learn them for yourself as they occur eg he still can't find a flat/he needs to sleep here tonight
How should the flatmate in this scenario behave? And how much more of this behaviour should they take??