Every time I meet up with my DF and her 3 DC (7, 6 and 5) I go home feeling like I'm a bad mum.
I'm the kind of mum who has strict boundaries ( DSs know they should be polite, kind and never endanger themselves or others) but want my DSs to be allowed to be children and enjoy their childhood.
My DF is very strict with her DC and that is fine, it's what works for her and I don't want to sound judgemental. But it just doesn't 'work' when we meet up. I feel like I need to give examples
So today, we were out at a local park. My DSs were running through the long grass - her DC followed and were told off because they might get nettled. Later, we went to pick raspberries, my DSs picked them as usual her children had to watch and just hold the tub incase they got stains on their clothes or got prickled. At my house, DSs asked to play on our drive on their scooters as they usually do, I said yes, she said no, they could get knocked over or stub their toes because they had sandals on.
I feel as though I should stop my children playing/behaving as they always do when we meet up but I don't want to give them mixed messages either. Sometimes DF asks them herself e.g. "Come on everyone, out of the grass" which of course I let happen to avoid any awkwardness.
AIBU to let them continue to play as we normally would or should we apply the same rules when were together.
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to not ask my DSs (6 and 4) to change their behaviour?
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Sylviesleep · 29/07/2015 20:54
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