to think this shouldn't be an issue?

[bumblebeebboi]

DH and I are expecting our first in March. I'm only 8 weeks at the moment so very early days but we told MIL as I have told my mum so seemed like it was fair.

She was very happy but also worried as DH's DB and SIL had their first last March, and her birthday is a few days away from our baby's EDD. She thinks they will be upset and we should have timed it better.

AIBU to think this is bizarre??

[MaxPepsi]

Well there is not much you can do about it now is there

Are your BIL and SIL the precious type? Could she be clumsily forewarning you of ridiculous behaviour to come about your baby stealing the thunder of a one year old?

It is bizarre however.

Congratulations on your pregnancy.

[bumblebeebboi]

Maxpepsi SIL is IMO a little bit precious - most recent eg was insisting no one should wear bright colours around the baby in case it upsets him, but I wouldn't have thought she was that precious.

That's what I said to MIL - there's not much I can do about it now, is there!!!

[TheRealAmyLee]

She would hate my family then. 4 of mine and sils kids were born within a 4 week timescale (over 4 diff years). 3 of them within 2 weeks!

Don't worry about it and congratulations.

[cookiefiend]

Gosh how odd. She is being ridiculous. You can't plan having a baby around other people's birthdays- there are so many people in each family how could you.

I am sure people will be thrilled. If they aren't they are weirdly precious and you should run for the hills.

[DoctorDonnaNoble]

WTF is that with bright colours! That sounds ridiculous!

[Roobix04]

I'm creased at the bright colours thing! Her kid must have the most boring toys ever!

[Pumpkinpositive]

Maxpepsi SIL is IMO a little bit precious - most recent eg was insisting no one should wear bright colours around the baby in case it upsets him,



This was a warning shot across the bows, OP.

You should have known better than to fornicate in the month of June.

[bumblebeebboi]

The bright colours thing I think stemmed from the fact that one of her friends was wearing a neon pink jumper and apparently her usually quiet baby was grumpy all afternoon...so she thinks it overstimulated him

I have no idea how she squares that with toys though as they are the usual brightly coloured plastic tat!

[Boosiehs]

that is nuts. My birthday is the same as myu uncle, my granddad and other uncle share a birthday, my Dad's is 4 day later.

My DS and my DNiece are 3 days apart!

[bumblebeebboi]

I should mention also that both my own DB and my DSIS have March birthdays....we really didn't even think about it when ttc. I'd just had a miscarriage and just wanted to be pregnant again tbh!

[Roobix04]

That definitely beats "the concept of a biscuit" for twattish pfbness. Sounds like she might be annoyed by your due date. Never mind there's nothing you can do about it and you can't plan your life around other people. Dd's due date was the exact same day as her cousin on dp's side. The cousin was a day late and dd was 13 days late.

[User100]

Maybe you should be prepared to hold your legs together if you go into Labour on nieces 1st birthday?

I don't know about your situation obviously, but plenty of people who are trying have to take whatever month they are lucky enough to get. Tell DS where you can go if she does say anything!

[User100]

Sorry - x post with your last message OP!

[Pumpkinpositive]

I'd just had a miscarriage and just wanted to be pregnant again tbh!

Oh well, fuck her if she expresses any view other than unmitigated 100% support and happiness for you.

[bumblebeebboi]

thank you pumpkin!

To be fair none of them know about my MC.

[MaxieMouse]

My dcs birthdays are 8 days apart. I guess I should have timed it better

[DonkeysDontRideBicycles]

Lots of people in the same family have birthdays around the same time, she is being daft. Congratulations.

(I do know of one grandma who was most put out her DGS had been born on her birthday and I'm sorry to say ever after she competed for attention, to the extent of "I have booked a flight to go on holiday that day, you must take me to the airport!" trying to make her DS miss his own son's 4th birthday party).

[orangefive]

My dc2 is due around ds1's 2nd birthday. Oops. I'd better have a strong word with myself! Also I thought babies liked colourful things???
Good luck with the crazy op.

[bumblebeebboi]

I also think it's partly because I don't think anyone in DH's family expected us to have a baby yet. I'm 26 and for some reason they all consider that insanely young.

[GetTheFudgeOutOfRodge]

Congratulations OP!

It's not like you looked at your diary and went "Hmm. Ah yes, I will give birth as close to DN's birthday as possible to piss off DB and SIL. MWHAHA!"

They should be over the moon for you and if they're anything but then fuck them ignore them.
Can I also suggest you wear your brightest, most neon clothes when you announce your good news?!

[TheRealAmyLee]

Wow that's fantastic pfb. Make sure you wear 70's neon for the announcement of impending thunder stealing birth.

for you. I know those mc feels. x

[Spartans]

To be fair the sil hasn't said anything. Just the mil might think it will be a problem. She may be right or they may not give shit.

Ds and dneice have their birthday on consecutive days. It didn't bother me. Sil was going be induced and pushed to be induced on ds' birthday because she thought it would be nice if they shared a birthday. Again didn't bother me.

[Floggingmolly]

You should have timed your pregnancy round your inlaws baby, in case the golden child's birthday is put in the shade? I'd be incandescent if anyone suggested that to me

[carabos]

My SiL and her daughter and my stepfather and his daughter have their birthdays on the same day. BiLs birthdays are one week apart. It isn't possible to select your baby's birthday at the time of conception. If this is her issue then she's nuttier than squirrel shit.

[firesidechat]

My daughter was born on my birthday. I should probably have disowned her at birth for being so inconsiderate.