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Neighbor i HATE has signed for my parcel

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lockex · 24/07/2015 19:10

This man has harassed me and made me feel uncomfortable since i moved in here with constantly knocking on my door, i complained to the landlord who have told him NOT to knock on my door and to leave me alone.

came back from work to find He has signed for my parcel
WHY would you sign for A parcel that belongs to a neighbor who has complained about you harassing them, and i only complained about 3 days ago so WHY?!
This man a few days ago when i left my flat and drove around the corner, i pulled up to answer my phone, i then saw him at the end of the road looking at my car, he then walked off and came back and PEAKED around the corner.
i see him outside just staring at my car and then he turns around and looks up at my window and stares.
He is so creepy!
This is really stressing me out, i have told amazon they need to collect the parcel from him as i will NOT be in ANY communication with him.

He is absolutely OBSESSED with me!
He was told not to ring my door so now he has signed for my parcel so he thinks i have to ring his door
He also signed the WRONG name, not even his name and YES it WAS him who signed for it, amazon have CONFIRMED

(EXAMPLE: he signed his name as TONY when his name is TOM)

i dont like him even knowing my full name he is so creepy
so im asking SHOULD I GET THE POLICE INVOLVED
im sick of this shit i JUST WANT TO BE LEFT ALONE!!!!!

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lockex · 24/07/2015 19:11

just to add he is around 70yrs old

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RachelRagged · 24/07/2015 19:15

Hmm

Are you perhaps prone to paranoia OP ?

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scarlets · 24/07/2015 19:15

I'd register your concern with the police (not sure that they can charge him with anything though) and in future ensure that deliveries are returned to depot if you're out.

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Jelliebabe1 · 24/07/2015 19:17

Get a male friend to go and get it if you can

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cashewnutty · 24/07/2015 19:17

Couldn't you get a friend to go and get it for you? Seems a bit dramatic to gets amazon to collect it from him when someone else could get it for you.

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swallowed · 24/07/2015 19:17

Get someone else to go round for your parcel?

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Jenny2014 · 24/07/2015 19:31

I'd say that when a delivery person knocks and asks you to take a parcel in they don't normally tell you who it's for, and it looks rude saying "No".

Is he a lonely confused old man? Could it be that he's looking for company. Maybe the last person who lived in your home was friends with him and kept him company. Does he have family who visit? Perhaps a quiet chat with them is in order. Or maybe social services if he doesn't have family - he may need help if he has dementia or similar.

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Lweji · 24/07/2015 19:33

Overreacting a bit?

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Fadingmemory · 24/07/2015 19:36

He may have any one of a number of conditions as Jenny suggests or just be rather odd. Take a friend with you and collect your parcel. Otherwise you will have to go to the delivery office. He has done you a favour.

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NerrSnerr · 24/07/2015 19:37

What was he doing when he was knocking on your door? What kind of things was he saying? Is it just that he's lonely or is he verbally abusing you?

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kinkyfuckery · 24/07/2015 19:42

What was he knocking on your door for?

Just go get your damn parcel and stop being melodramatic. Put a note on your Amazon account not to leave parcels with his address.

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wibbleywee · 24/07/2015 19:42

ummm op has said that he makes her uncomfortable in her own home and it quite clearly has an affect on her, telling her she is overreacting or being harsh on him is really quite rude. However I do agree that you need to find someone else to collect your parcel and maybe consider moving if you only rent and its affecting you that much.

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LIZS · 24/07/2015 19:43

Did you not specify a safe place to Amazon? If you can't face asking for it , leave him a note requesting that he put it somewhere for you to collect.

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lockex · 24/07/2015 19:47

i dont care if he is lonely, its not my job to entertain old men. He was knocking on my door to try come in for "tea" then when i started ignoring him he starting knocking to complain about noise which wasnt an issue when i was answering the door to him.
I have my own issues and my own life to deal with. I told him to stop knocking on my door when he came out as soon as i pulled up topless and doing up his trousers, it was a disgusting site.

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swallowed · 24/07/2015 19:50

So he knocked to say hi, complained about the noise and he has looked at you/your car a few times?

Is there more to this?

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lockex · 24/07/2015 19:51

I dont want any communication with him because this seems to encourage him. After i told him to stop knocking on my door a month or so ago he stopped but then he signed for a parcel and i knocked on my door, i accepted it and said thank you then it went back to square one with him constantly knocking.
I m not going through that again i just want to be left alone, im a private person with anxiety issues this is my basic human RIGHT
i didnt sign a contract to say i must entertain lonely neighbors

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lockex · 24/07/2015 19:55

No he knocked firstly to make excuses to come into my flat, usually with "im making tea do you want some"
I dont accept drinks of strangers so i declined then he would make up other excuses asking me if i needed tools or whatever.
I started to ignore him knocking a few times, this is when i pulled up outside and he ran outside with no top on doing up his trousers and asking if i wanted tea.
I again declined
He then knocked on my door about 5 minutes after and i ignore him
I ignored him a few times after this
i then opened the door a couple times to him complaining about my tv or DIY in the afternoon.

Some other times he knocked but i ignored him,
this is when i noticed him staring at my car, staring at my window and the incident a few days ago when he PEAKED around the corner which completely freaked me out

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lockex · 24/07/2015 20:00

He hasnt done me a favor and amazon do say who the parcel is for
he is basement flat and i am above and why did he sign in a fake name?
He has done this because he has been told not to knock on my door so now i have to knock on his

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Blowingoffsteam · 24/07/2015 20:00

He soulds lonely. You sound weird.

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TheAnswerIsYes · 24/07/2015 20:06

I feel sorry for your neighbour. You don't sound at all nice.

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KinkyAfro · 24/07/2015 20:09

Some very unkind comments on here about op.

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DoreenLethal · 24/07/2015 20:12

You sound normal, he sounds weird.

Anyone saying he sounds lonely and you sound weird needs to have a word with themselves.

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PenguinSalute · 24/07/2015 20:12

Please please do not waste police time by 'registering your concern' as a PP suggested. Of course there won't be 'enough to charge him with anything'- there wouldn't even be enough for a voluntary interview, let alone an arrest/charge. No crime has been committed!

In future specify 'not at number XX' in delivery instructions for purchases, then if he gets deliveries again you can take it up directly with the seller to get a replacement sent.

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brusselsproutwarning · 24/07/2015 20:13

He does sound overly friendly to someone who doesn't want to be friends. Maybe he signed with his official name but everyone calls him by his middle name?

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AliceInSandwichLand · 24/07/2015 20:14

I wonder if the old man has early dementia? His behaviour sounds confused to me rather than deliberately nasty, particularly not being sure of his name and random offers of tea. Just a thought.

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