I am at my wits end with my ex. Our breakup was quite messy with him just walking out of the house one day and leaving me with our son now 4. We have had conversations about us but I am trying to keep it separate from issues with access with our son.
We agreed that he would have our son for a few hours in the evening on Tuesdays and Thursdays and every other weekend this I think is a fair agreement and means my son doesn't go too long without seeing his Dad. I have been very ill in hospital ex didn't look after son and day I was admitted I was calling frantically as needed him to pick son up luckily my Mum sorted it. He also does not contribute regularly and I have been paying for 95% of my sons costs alone as well as arrears we had in the house. Bare with me just trying to provide context.
I went back to work on Monday and we swapped Tuesday evening for Wednesday so that I could attend a meal after work I am leaving and joining a new school. I was home by 9. Now on Thursday I reminded him he had to pick our son up from Nursery he was angry with me and said that now I am on holiday I should be doing the journey which is an hour altogether and I'm not doing enough to help him out I explained that I am not fully recovered (had meningitis) and fatigued so would appreciate if he picked him up on his days from nursery.
He caused such a fuss I ended up keeping my son with me and telling him to pick him up from home when he finished work. Things were not left on a sour note. He did not bother to see our son last night to message to say he wasn't coming or even call him to apologise. This is not the first time he has let him down the weekend I became ill I was at home in agony with my son because his Dad never turned up on Saturday and came on the Sunday. I'm getting tired of his inability to be reliable sp want to limit contact to every other weekend so that weekdays aren't spent with my son wondering what is happening and becoming anxious especially when he starts school in September.
I just don't know what to do and he plays on my emotions and guilt for not being the beat partner. I have another previous thread about this.
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spideymum · 24/07/2015 08:04
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