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AIBU?

To think coming down for breakfast in a hotel in your PJs is really bad manners

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Nurserywindow · 22/07/2015 13:48

We were away at the weekend in a hotel with a couple of friends whose teenage daughters insisted on coming down to breakfast each morning in skimpy pyjamas. We were embarrassed and could see hotel guests looking a bit askance. However, their parents didn't say anything so there was nothing we could do.
They also lounged around the general reception area for about an hour afterwards using their ipads, before going upstairs to get dressed.

AIBU to think this was rude and they should have been told firmly to get dressed before coming downstairs?

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Smoorikins · 22/07/2015 13:50

Yanbu.

My daughter lounges around in her pj's all day if she's not working/going out but a) they are not skimpy and b) she wouldn't do it in a public place.

I'm with you. I'd be embarrassed.

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Babyroobs · 22/07/2015 13:51

YANBU, I wouldn't let my kids do this.

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Christelle2207 · 22/07/2015 13:51

Yanbu, very odd indeed.

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FirstWeTakeManhattan · 22/07/2015 13:53

I wouldn't do that in a hotel, no. I wouldn't be absolutely horrified if someone else did it, but I'd assume they hadn't stayed in many hotels before. I don't think it's rude particularly, but the parents should guide the teenagers on how to behave properly.

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TheHormonalHooker · 22/07/2015 13:54

I find this quite strange. I know lots of teenage girls and not one would dream of doing this.

Unbelievable really. Confused

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Goshthatsspicy · 22/07/2015 13:54

Intitled behaviour.
Some teens really do think the world revolves round them.

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OTheHugeManatee · 22/07/2015 13:54

YANBU. This is why I dislike staying in hotels for more than a few nights unless I can get room service. I hate having to get out of PJs before breakfast, and then eating it in public where people are going to judge my bed-hair and lack of makeup. Self-catering, room service or serviced villa for me, tyvm Wink

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Petridish · 22/07/2015 13:55

Totally inappropriate Confused

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fearandloathinginambridge · 22/07/2015 13:55

I wouldn't do it and I wouldn't want to see it.

I realise that I do things and behave in ways that my parents and grandparents would never have countenanced and would think were very bad manners indeed, but I do think being dressed in a public place is basic decorum.

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HamishBamish · 22/07/2015 13:55

YANBU, it's really rude. Fair enough to remain in your pyjamas if you're having room service, but not when other guests are present.

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Nurserywindow · 22/07/2015 13:56

When I say 'skimpy pyjamas' I mean they were made of skimpy light material, and were a bit see through, not that they were short shorts or anything like that.

But it still looked awful in my view.

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The5DayChicken · 22/07/2015 13:57

I was going to say YAB a bit U. Then I saw the 'skimpy' bit.

No, YANBU. Skimpy PJs aren't appropriate for breakfast in a hotel.

When you say teens, are we talking old enough to be independent or young/middle teens? If older, the parents may be picking their battles. They may well be getting told "I'm old enough to make my own decisions" a lot and therefore chose not to have that conversation knowing it would cause a scene and draw further attention to their scantily clad daughters.

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Nurserywindow · 22/07/2015 13:57

They're 14 and nearly 16.

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The5DayChicken · 22/07/2015 14:00

Wow, I'm astonished their parents didn't say anything then. And that they own see-through pyjamas at that age Confused

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lardyscouse · 22/07/2015 14:03

I'd speak to the Hotel and ask them if it would be possible for your entire party to be notified when these guests were due to appear [impossible] or, if not, to be able to up and leave your breakfast and return later to a freshly cooked one once the scanties have gone.
They will soon put a stop to it.

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knittingdad · 22/07/2015 14:04

This is why room service exists.

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Nurserywindow · 22/07/2015 14:04

We were actually quite surprised that no one on the staff said anything. It wasn't a particularly 'posh' hotel, but it wasn't a rough and ready one either. A family hotel in a seaside town.

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limitedperiodonly · 22/07/2015 14:07

When you say 'insisted', do you mean they invoked the Human Rights Act in order to wear their skimpy scanties at a hotel where decent people could see them?

If so, I think the Daily Mail Sadface Squad are your friends.

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spottybottycream · 22/07/2015 14:11

Its just pyjamas. I mean I wouldn't do it, but I would hardly call proper pyjamas inappropriately dressed. Its not like they came down in bikini's. You see worse things in town on a friday and saturday night!

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Notso · 22/07/2015 14:13

Teenagers on holiday lounging around, the dirty bastards.

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BuildYourOwnSnowman · 22/07/2015 14:17

I remember going on holiday with my elderly grandad who wore his slippers to breakfast and dinner (in the kind of posh restaurant). I heard people sniggering and commenting.

I wouldn't object to lounge wear as I believe some nightwear is called these days! But that is more similar to sportswear really. Skimpy nightwear isn't acceptable. Dh sleeps in his boxers - would your friends have thought it acceptable if a man had come to breakfast in his underpants?

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Garlick · 22/07/2015 14:17

I thought you meant they were in frilly little teddies! Normal pyjamas - maybe not ideal, but not too bad. Maybe, if there's a next time, you could advise them their PJs show through in the light: I'm sure they didn't realise.

I wear pyjamas all the time Grin I'm just really good at picking ones that don't look like pyjamas. Americans would call it loungewear, I think Wink

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Sparklingbrook · 22/07/2015 14:19

There's no need for that. I prefer self catering as it means I can eat my breakfast in my dressing gown at 11am if I want.

Too many rules and regulations to hotel breakfasts, YY room service is the way to go. Miss out on all the communal cereal shenanigans and greedy buffet goers too.

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crapfatbanana · 22/07/2015 14:22

I'm cringing, just reading this. YANBU.

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