Perhaps sounds more dramatic than it is...background is that DM has been a widow for almost a decade, moved to my area after DS1 was born to help but found looking after small children too much so now only occasionally babysits, which is fine. She cares for her father who lives a few hours away, so she splits her time between here and there. She has made some great steps making a life for herself here, not easy at her age, but having to spend a lot of her time with her father prevents her from maintaining meaningful friendships here. So I am her only support here, and when her father doesn't need her, I find her at my house, not helping with 3 small DC particularly but certainly here, she's a bit lost when here as no job, no solid friendships...I've just moved (within same area) & am trying to form & maintain friendships myself but I'm finding DM always being here is preventing this (has own key, will often turn up & let self in). She also spoils eldest rotten & that can cause issues if she's here too often. However, every time I try to gain a bit of space, I just feel so guilty...I know she's lonely, I know she loves seeing DC, & I feel awful for wanting a bit of space (sudden death of DF keeps reminding me she won't be here forever)...but I'm crowded & want my own space. AIBU?
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