to not want to do childminding

(97 Posts)
kennyp Sun 05-Jul-15 10:24:16

someone i know but i'm so not friends with asks me "what days could you look after my children after school"

i am NOT a childminder
i don't want to be
i work anyway
i am not a fan of her kids
i live opposite the school which i suppose is why she thinks it's okay to ask me

should i say
a. i'm busy/working/etc and can't do any afternoons
b. i don't do childcare.

this has been pissing me off for AGES (she's "waiting" to hear back about what days i can do(!!!!)) and i can't decide what to say. she's not a friend so i've got nothing to lose

InQuiteAPickle Sun 05-Jul-15 10:26:10

shock What the hell has made her think that you'd be willing to look after her kids? Cheeky cow!

Nolim Sun 05-Jul-15 10:27:44

-what days could you look after my children after school
-none

Walk away

dancemom Sun 05-Jul-15 10:27:56

A random parent asked you what days you would look after their kids and is waiting to hear back from you?

Why didn't you reply when they asked?

Saying "eh none!"

Why would they assume you would?

GlitterTwinkleToes Sun 05-Jul-15 10:28:16

Type a list up with your hourly rates and any extra chargers for food.

She'll most probably piss off then grin

GemmaTeller Sun 05-Jul-15 10:29:13

b

yellowdinosauragain Sun 05-Jul-15 10:29:38

Wtaf didn't you say none when she first asked?

Salmiak Sun 05-Jul-15 10:29:47

You could be blunt and reply with the above reasons, however I think a simple 'sorry, I won't be able to have them on any days after school, good luck finding childcare - I hear the after school club is brilliant/xxx sends her kids to this childminder and they have space' would suffice.

Justmuddlingalong Sun 05-Jul-15 10:31:41

Ask her if she's mixed you up with someone who does do childminding. It might be a mistake on her part, or she may be a presumptuous, cheeky mare!

kennyp Sun 05-Jul-15 10:32:16

i keep avvoiding her. i was thinking i was being passive aggressive (i obviously read this page tooo much!!) thinking i could say to her "i dont do childcare" but obviously it's not (hooray!!)

or will do a list. per hour £5. cereal bars £2 each. water £1 a glass. toilet roll £2 per square. flushing £3. having to open the back door £4.

kennyp Sun 05-Jul-15 10:33:57

i was so taken aback when she asked me to let her know what days i could do (!!!!!!!!!!) ---- she wasn't expecting an answer straight away so i didn't say anything. (will go on assertiveness training course)

Penfold007 Sun 05-Jul-15 10:34:38

Just be clear and say none.

Scoobydoo8 Sun 05-Jul-15 10:34:58

In theory it is 'playmates' for your DCs and a helpful thing.

In practice the new DCs are tired after school and cause squabbles and your DCs play up as you can't punish /deal with your them as firmly as you would normally as there are others in the house.

A total pita.

Don't do it.

ladygracie Sun 05-Jul-15 10:35:09

Oh no, that's way too much faff. A straight £100 an hour should cover all of those things.
I agree with the others - saying you don't do childcare is totally reasonable. Wonder why she asked you though - could it really just be that you live close to school? Are her children the same ages as yours?

elderfloweriver Sun 05-Jul-15 10:36:59

Smile sweetly and say 'I'm sorry, I can't commit to having your child after school.'

Cheeky swine!

StillStayingClassySanDiego Sun 05-Jul-15 10:37:14

I don't do childcare and won't be in the future, what on earth made you ask such a question?, that would be my response.

CrystalCove Sun 05-Jul-15 10:39:23

There's a lack of assertiveness and a lack of assertiveness....,really don't get why this has been upsetting you so much, and why you just didn't say no immediately.

SchwarzwalderKirschtorte Sun 05-Jul-15 10:39:25

What makes you think that I'm a childminder?

Fluffyears Sun 05-Jul-15 10:42:57

Just laugh hysterically and walk away. She'll think you're a loon and stay well away.

gobbin Sun 05-Jul-15 10:43:05

Anyway, childminders have to be registered.

"I'm not a registered childminder, so I can't mind other people's children."

TheseSoles Sun 05-Jul-15 10:44:29

I'm really baffled that you didn't immediately say "sorry, you must be confused? I'm not a childminder!"

Surely, since you're not friends, it's way more likely that she's made a genuine mistake than anything else?

80sMum Sun 05-Jul-15 10:44:59

Just say "sorry, I don't do childminding" and leave it at that.

kennyp Sun 05-Jul-15 10:45:09

it's been pissing me off becuase the more i think about it the more i think why the HELL would i want to look after her kids? i was just shocked when she asked me. she's not someone i would even speak to in the playground. insane.

her kids are not friends with my kids in any way. i just know her from school.

TinyManticore Sun 05-Jul-15 10:46:11

I can't imagine ever thinking 'X lives near the school, she'll undoubtedly be delighted to look after someone else's random offspring despite giving no indication that this is something she's remotely interested in or involved with.' confused
What on earth makes her think you would do it in the first place? Some people are insane.

80sMum Sun 05-Jul-15 10:46:51

Maybe someone told her you did childminding. You just need to tell her that you don't!

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