I've NC for this (I think it's fairly obvious why).
Before it's suggested, this is not a stealth brag because I am genuinely unhappy about it.
Basically, DH takes too long to cum when we have sex. Every time we have sex at the moment it takes at least half an hour and often longer. After I had DS1 he seemed to struggle to finish and I got really paranoid it was because I was 'loose' after having given birth but after a few weeks of doing lots of pelvic floor exercises the problem seemed to go away and I forgot about it.
Then, after having DS2 it started again and again I got quite upset thinking it was because of me. But again I did PF exercises and this time it didn't really seem to help. I wondered whether it was actually because we weren't having sex very often (I was very tired due to DCs not sleeping well and our current living arrangement is a bit awkward for having sex) so DH was masturbating more and was used to a...tighter grip. I suggested this to him (and assured him it wasn't a problem - I have no issue with him masturbating/watching porn etc.). He said it was actually because he's circumcised and has a bit of loss of sensitivity and has problems reaching orgasm when he's alone.
The thing is, it stops me wanting to have sex with him. It's so hot at the moment and these long sessions of sex leave us both so disgustingly sweaty that we're both completely drenched and so is the bed (and no, there's no option of having sex anywhere else at the moment). Plus, the DCs have been getting up at 4.30am recently so when I go to bed I want to go to sleep pretty quickly (I get up with the kids through the week when DH is working and at the weekend we each have a lie-in one day).
It also makes me feel unattractive. I tell myself he can't help it and it's nothing to do with me but I after two kids my body has changed and I don't feel as confident as I used to and when I can't even make my husband cum it knocks my confidence further!
I don't know what I'm looking for here because I know it's not his fault and there's not much we can do but AIBU to just want to have a quick 10 minutes of passion and then go to sleep every now and then?
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TiredandSweaty · 04/07/2015 11:23
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