We have pets. I get that people mourn their death and you can't put a timescale on it.
But last night I got a drunken call from bil, saying thanks very much for the tickets to see a show (for his 50th birthday) but that he doesn't feel he can leave the dog, who is now buried in the garden. We are supposed to be babysitting my nephews for the night.
By way of background, he overfed the dog for years. She was like an elephant and has had no quality of life for many years - just used to lie there grunting and groaning, struggled to get onto her feet etc. I was almost relieved when they had to put her to sleep about 3-4 weeks ago.
I told him he needs to find a way of moving on as he has two dc (6 and 8yo) to be a role model to and they need to see how to move on. That is his responsibility. Apparently he's spoken about building her a tomb etc!
Tbh I also feel like telling him to get a grip as far worse things happen in life. I am currently being made redundant and dh's father has cancer so we're sort of sick of the whole saga as we have rather enough to contend with. I know his response to the dog's death signifies a deeper issue and dsis is struggling to get through to him. Aibu to expect him to pull himself together?
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LittleLionMansMummy · 03/07/2015 08:53
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