He's 19 and my oldest. He did dreadfully in his GCSE's, then got an apprenticeship at a relatives company, despite not having good enough GCSE results, messed that up and is now working in a shop part time, a job that I got him through a friend. He will not do anything about getting a better job or going to college, he has all the time in the world apparently.
He's got a girlfriend who lives a couple of hours away and now it seems his sole aim in life is to see her as much as possible. So he's started going there in between his work days. When he is here he's tired and grumpy and although he does a little to help around the house is moody about it/has started being rude to me. He pays no rent, which was initially as he was helping with the younger DC so I could attend hospital appointments etc and some evening babysitting.
He was meant to get back from his girlfriends last night, which is usually around midnight. I waited up until 2am in case he didn't have a key and he didn't come back. I text and got no reply and have tried phoning this morning. No answer. He eventually text saying he'd decided to stay an extra couple of days as his girlfriend 'needed' him and he can't answer his phone.
I have also gone in his room this morning an found rizlas and lighters (where the younger DC could reach them) and letters from his girlfriend mentioning taking ketamine and 'getting fucked' (the drug kind, not the sex kind).
I am furious and devastated. This is fairly typical of his recent behaviour and all I ask is that he lets me know his plans, which he can't even be bothered to do. I am on the verge of throwing him out, but I feel like that's a terrible thing to do.
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Breakingpointnow · 02/07/2015 12:26
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