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AIBU?

Nearly mowed down in Morrisons car park...

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ollieplimsoles · 01/07/2015 15:51

So I'm standing near a free parent and child space on the curb with another pedestrian lady. She hurried across the road to the shop but I carried on waiting for a time to cross as I'm pregnant and can't run atm!

While I was standing there, this huge black Nissan 4x4 decided to park in the space I was standing next to, it appeared to be full of pensioners (one man driving with a lady next to him, three ladies in the back). he did not give himself enough room to swing into the parking space, and he had to mount the curb I was standing on. He was not looking, didnt see me there and just put his foot down right towards me! I quickly jumped out of the way onto the road to avoid him. I stepped right in the way of a car coming (only room I could jump to to avoid 4x4) and the lady in that car stopped suddenly and glared at the Nissan- she had obviously seen what he had done because she was just shaking her head at him.

They all just got out of the car and went into the shop (so in a parent and child space with no children with them too, to add insult to almost injury)

On my way out of the shop I walked past their parked 4x4 and accidentally scratched it with the buckle on my handbag. AIBU to be rather proud of myself for that? from what I saw it was a visible scratch on his pristine black, polished bodywork..

Idiot. The women in the car knew I was there but none of them seemed bothered that he nearly hit me!

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MrsHathaway · 01/07/2015 15:53

He was a twat; you deliberately caused criminal damage.

Did nobody teach you that two wrongs don't make a right?

NRomanoff · 01/07/2015 15:53

Yabu. And you know you are.

You should have opened you mouth or left it completely. Why would you be proud of criminal damage?

MajesticWhine · 01/07/2015 15:53

Er. You shouldn't have scratched their car. Are you sure it was "accidentally"? Yes, YABU. One is bad driving and inconsiderate. The other one is criminal damage.

DawnOfTheDoggers · 01/07/2015 15:55

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ollieplimsoles · 01/07/2015 15:55

I didn't do it deliberately MrsHathaway its was a genuine accident. I only realised it was his car when I looked back.

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ASettlerOfCatan · 01/07/2015 15:56

You are both bu.

He is a total idiot and v v unreasonable for mounting the kerb, not looking AND parking in p&c with no kids.

You are also v unreasonable to cause (seemingly deliberate) damage to his car.

As said above 2 wrongs..

MonstrousRatbag · 01/07/2015 15:56

And the result? A driver not made aware of his careless mistake, will not improve his driving. He will come back to his car and see someone's scratched it and be annoyed. And so the world gets meaner and pettier.

Not seeing any upside, here.

NRomanoff · 01/07/2015 15:56

So why are you proud of yourself?

ollieplimsoles · 01/07/2015 15:57

It was a small white scratch just near the door handle ffs, are some of you actually thinking I would deliberately scratch the car?? there are cameras and I'm in that shop all the time!

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NRomanoff · 01/07/2015 15:57

And I assume you waited for him or at least went back into the shop to inform him

ASettlerOfCatan · 01/07/2015 15:58

Even if it was accidental you were proud of it and did nothing to try and rectify it. If I left a huge scratch on someones car I would be mortified and would leave my contact details as you would with an accident.

Nicknacky · 01/07/2015 15:58

You would have had to be walking exceptionally close to his car to have scratched it so visibly with the buckle of a belt. No way was it accidental by the sounds of it. If it was accidental, why didn't you leave a note with your details?

The bad driving is a separate issue but doesn't remove any moral obligation to tell someone you have damaged their property.

DawnOfTheDoggers · 01/07/2015 15:59

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WinterOfOurDiscountTents15 · 01/07/2015 15:59

He nearly hit you, you actually damaged his car. Only one of you actually committed the crime.

ASettlerOfCatan · 01/07/2015 16:00

Your proudness in original post comes accross as you having left a large visable mark you seem super impressed with in some kind of karma payback for him
THAT'S why we are all responding like this.

TinyManticore · 01/07/2015 16:02

He was a shit driver and you were careless to damage someone's car, but if it was a genuine accident, fair enough. Everyone on here will now get hysterical over the car damage because brushing past someone else's car is akin to slashing it at with axe according to a lot of posters.

Nicknacky · 01/07/2015 16:04

tiny. She has damaged someone's property. That's not being hysterical, it's wrong. If you damage something accidental or not, you should have the balls to admit it and make good.

Floggingmolly · 01/07/2015 16:04

Why do you say you're "proud" of what you did; then act all aghast when people suggest you did it deliberately? You sound a bit of a boring drama queen to me.

ollieplimsoles · 01/07/2015 16:04

Ha! 'Leave my details' It was a TINY mark!

and no I didn't get chance to confront them about it because after being forced onto the road I walked a longer way around to avoid the other traffic, by that time they were in the shop. I did tell a staff member about them nearly hitting me and parking in a parent child space with no children, but he just shrugged it off and said we can't police the car park spaces. This was at customer services.

I guess I was a bit shaken to really care about his property- after a huge car came right towards me, pushing me into the path of another car. If I had had a pram with me I would not have been able to move so easily off that curb.

But hey ho I can accept I was U

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ollieplimsoles · 01/07/2015 16:06

Floggingmolly I'm not 'aghast' at anything, I know it was a genuine accident.

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MonstrousRatbag · 01/07/2015 16:06

Backtrack!

NRomanoff · 01/07/2015 16:07

You were standing near the space, near enough he nearly hit you. You could have said something. You were close enough to know, no one in car said anything to him.

You were proud that you scratched his car. You were proud you accidentally left a tiny small scratch, by accident on someones car?

Do you see how this doesn't make sense?

TinyManticore · 01/07/2015 16:07

It does depend on how precious you are about your car though. If somebody left a small mark on mine, I probably wouldn't notice anyway and I would be very shocked if anyone admitted to it. A larger dent or something, obviously I would notice and get it fixed.

Nicknacky · 01/07/2015 16:08

So is it visible or tiny? Make up your mind, either way my point stands. You caused damage.

Unfortunately there is nothing the staff can do about his bad driving, and many supermarkets don't seem to bother much with the parent and child parking. Did you tell the staff member about you accidentally damaging the car? Legally you don't have to, but as you were commenting on his anti social behaviour you could have mentioned your own behaviour.

fuctifino · 01/07/2015 16:12

You come out of this worse than he has. His was oversight, yours was deliberate, despite your protestations.

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