Friends son being made to stay indoors at lunch time.

(21 Posts)
Duggee Wed 01-Jul-15 07:58:36

I'm posting on behalf of a friend. Her son aged 4 is in reception and has made a lovely group of friends whom he enjoys playing with. Another boy in the class is not part of his friendship group usually and plays with different children most days usually. This child has an allergy to suncream and in the past few weeks he's had to stay inside but gets to pick a friend to stay inside. Last week he picked my friends son to stay inside. Except most days after that he has picked my friends son. He's getting really upset as he wants to play out with his friends, but the teacher asked the boy to pick someone else Monday as friends little boy was crying about it but he was made to Tuesday. I don't think this is fair.

BastardGoDarkly Wed 01-Jul-15 08:00:48

No I don't either, had she spoke to the school?

honeysucklejasmine Wed 01-Jul-15 08:01:27

It's not fair. The teacher should be insisting on a different person each day, and they should be allowed to do something special, like watch videos, so it is a "treat" to stay in.

Euphemia Wed 01-Jul-15 08:01:49

If I was your friend I'd contact the school and ask them to choose someone else. It's not fair for the same person to be told to do it, if they're unwilling.

southeastastra Wed 01-Jul-15 08:03:48

can the boy not go out in the shade, that sounds quite sad to stay in every lunchtime.

haveabreakhaveakitkat Wed 01-Jul-15 08:03:50

Not fair at all. I agree he should pick a different friend each day and the chosen one should be happy about it.

claraschu Wed 01-Jul-15 08:06:56

I think it is utterly ridiculous to make a child stay inside because of a suncream allergy. He can wear a loose long sleeved t-shirt and a sunhat. There are plenty of doctors saying that we don't get enough sun in this country and that the obsession with suncream has gone too far.

NRomanoff Wed 01-Jul-15 08:11:53

She needs to speak to the school. Tell th he isn't to stay in, or only one day a week, if her son wants to do it occasionally

Lateswim16 Wed 01-Jul-15 08:31:09

He stays inside? Sounds bloody ridiculous to me. Hat and cover up.

Ffs it's a few weeks of hot weather not the bloody Sahara desert.!

googoodolly Wed 01-Jul-15 08:32:48

They shouldn't be getting anyone to stay inside with him! That's horribly unfair to all the other children.

whois Wed 01-Jul-15 08:33:20

Parents should send him in with a long sleeved loose fitting white shirt with UV protection and a sun hat. FFS. Staying inside and making another child stay in is so redic.

Mrsjayy Wed 01-Jul-15 08:35:37

You can get those uv tshirts nowadays and he should be outside getting some sun leat for half hour anyway your friend should be speaking to school its unfair 1 child has to stzy in the little boy should chose a different friend every day

AreYouThinkingWhatImThinking Wed 01-Jul-15 08:40:27

I don't think it's fair to this child, or the child that has stay in with him.

Like a pp said, surely a loose fitting long sleeved top and loose bottoms, a sun hat etc should be ok for the boy to still play outside... no child should have to stay indoors all the time when it's sunny

But if it's at the boys parents insistence then yes, a rotation of a different friend to stay inside with him each day is the fairest option.

I'd definitely be making my displeasure be know to the school about my son being made to stay in the majority of the time at when it clearly upsets him - poor little love

littlejohnnydory Wed 01-Jul-15 08:41:02

What's wrong with a uv top and hat for the friend? But no, I wouldn't be happy and I'd have a word with the teacher.

Gemauve Wed 01-Jul-15 08:50:26

Over protective, aggressive parent of the child with the allergy has spoken to the teacher, and to make him/her go away, the teacher is hoping the second child's parents have other things on their mind.

As others say: loose long-sleeved shirt. And in any event, it's that parent and that child's problem, and forcing other children to help is unfair and unreasonable.

googoodolly Wed 01-Jul-15 08:50:44

It shouldn't really matter what the parents insist - making another child miss their break with their friend is really unfair sad

MidniteScribbler Wed 01-Jul-15 09:00:03

I wonder if there really is an allergy, or if it's just parents allowing their child to just dictate terms. At our school, we often get little ones arriving with a 'suncream allergy' which just means that they don't like to stand still long enough to apply it. If he does have a reaction, then patch testing can be done to determine which ingredient is causing the allergy and there are suncreams available for various types of skin allergy. Otherwise it is a long sleeve UV shirt, long pants, sunhat, and a warning to stay in the shade. No staying inside, and no expecting a teacher to give up their lunchbreak to supervise.

Duggee Wed 01-Jul-15 11:13:22

My friend is going to speak to the teacher and ask that he doesn't have to stay inside with this boy. He was worried she was being unreasonably by requesting this but looks like you all agree with me.

specialsubject Wed 01-Jul-15 11:25:32

temperature is irrelevant. Suncream needed April to October, so while he is avoiding the peak UV he can't stay indoors all that time. The child needs suitable clothing, a big shady hat and limited peak UV exposure, but keeping him in for all those lunchtimes is nuts.

making another child stay in too is even more nuts.

WorraLiberty Wed 01-Jul-15 11:26:21

This is a no brainer OP

I don't know why your friend is even dithering about this. Her child is upset at being constantly asked/made to stay in, so of course the parent should step in and speak to the school.

ollieplimsoles Wed 01-Jul-15 11:52:09

He's allergic to sun cream, not the sun! He can always cover up. I would feel so sorry for my son staying in all lunch time while the other kids are playing! I would cover him up and send him out!

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