To have judged this woman and told her so?

(55 Posts)
RattleAndRoll Fri 26-Jun-15 17:54:35

I'll set the scene.

Macdonalds drive though. (I know, I know).

Two places to order at the microphone/speaker place then you filter into one lane to pay at one window & then collect at another.

Car filtering in front of us contains female driver on mobile phone. Child on front seat unrestrained (aged about 3 but not great with ages, child had a dummy still) There was a car seat in back but was empty obviously. Child is hanging out of the open window, mother trying to manoeuvre the car around the bendy lanes and filter in. Still nattering on phone, just kept dragging child away from window if they leant too far out and pushing them into passenger footwell.

She filters into our lane, then keeps rolling backwards seemingly accidentally as she'd then hit the brake hard, still on phone, still trying to keep child from falling out window. She was rolling almost into us so me and DH shouted at her to get off her phone and control her car and restrain the child.
Still on the phone she shouted back to us what's it gotta do with you? Which is true. We just said for god sake sort the kid out and stop breaking all these laws.
She then said its fine she's only using the drive through she's not actually driving.hmm And then she put phone down, shouted at the kid to keep still, drove forward, got her food and then drove out of macdonalds and out of the retail park completely. Child still not restrained.

Now I really try not to judge, I always think they might be really stressed/ I don't know what's going on in their lives etc but in this case no, I am judging. There's no excuse. Child should have been in car seat. If child got them selves out and climbed through the seats and got in front seat, pull over. Or at least use normal seatbelt across their lap to stop them hanging out of window, then pull over and put child in car seat. No need to be on phone either. Just no.

I know it's none of my business, and I could have kept out of it but hopefully next time she thinks about being on the phone in car or not putting the child in a car seat she might remember this situation and might do the right thing and that poor kid might not be killed in a RTC. I hope so anyway. sad

So AIBU to have judged her and told her so?

Heels99 Fri 26-Jun-15 17:56:02

Yanbu. I always beep at people on their phones when driving and that's without the child restraint issue.

TheHouseOnBellSt Fri 26-Jun-15 17:57:25

I would have reported her the moment she left the place with him unrestrained. Silly woman.

WiseKneeHair Fri 26-Jun-15 17:58:01

YANBU to wedge those judgy pants right up. I would have given myself a wedgie

kinkyfuckery Fri 26-Jun-15 17:59:01

Some people are just fucking stupid.

It's usually the way, though, that these are not the people who get killed in RTC. These are the people that usually end up killing others!

AlpacaLypse Fri 26-Jun-15 18:05:28

I judge anyone on mobile phones and driving. And with unrestrained children. 200% whammy here!

Notasinglefuckwasgiven Fri 26-Jun-15 18:06:02

I'd have lost the plot with her....YADNBU

brickinit Fri 26-Jun-15 18:14:21

I hate mobile phone drivers as much as drink drivers.
Both can end up killing innocent people.

I wish the day would come when the Police would treat people driving whilst on their phones with the same severity as drink drivers.

TaliZorahVasNormandy Fri 26-Jun-15 18:15:03

I'd have got annoyed too. I dream that people like this end up driving past the police. Unlikely but I can dream.

TaliZorahVasNormandy Fri 26-Jun-15 18:16:58

Infact I got shunted by a people carrier at traffic lights because some stupid woman didnt have her toddler in a proper seat, instead in the front, with a normal belt approaching a by pass.

OP it werent in a town commonly known as Braindead was it?

Fatmomma99 Fri 26-Jun-15 18:18:39

Macdonalds - bleurrgh!

MrsHenryMountbattenWindsor Fri 26-Jun-15 18:21:07

YANBU. I've phoned 999 before to give details of a car containing several unrestrained children. Don't suppose anything was done about it.

TinyManticore Fri 26-Jun-15 18:22:29

It's Mc, not Mac but that's beside the point. Yanbu at all, that's incredibly dangerous and stupid driving. I hope the child is alright.

textfan Fri 26-Jun-15 18:23:15

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Andrewofgg Fri 26-Jun-15 18:23:24

I have seen someone disqualified for six months as a totter - four lots of three points all for using the bloody mobile at the wheel. The last to get the message?

The5DayChicken Fri 26-Jun-15 18:24:16

I would and have had my say in situations involving a similar calibre of idiot OP. Like a few weeks back when some tool of a woman was walking in the middle of a busy-ish road (as in not pavement), pushing a double buggy with her kids in, and had her earphones plugged in during rush hour. And got offended that I sounded my horn, because I stupidly thought she'd become oblivious to the traffic. Nope. Just fancied putting her kids in danger to obstruct trafficangry. Some people are just fucking thick.

WiseKneeHair Fri 26-Jun-15 18:28:58

Fatmomma because that's the important thing about the OP's post hmm

PurpleSwift Fri 26-Jun-15 18:31:39

Sooo stupid. I'd have told them to pay attention to their driving, probably only to get them to stop rolling backwards, closely to my car. I'd also have taken the number plate and phoned the police.

Aramynta Fri 26-Jun-15 18:32:27

It's threads like this where I always pray that the other person is on MN, see's the thread and feels thoroughly ashamed of what they have done.

This one and the Bing bunny thief are two recent.

Andrewofgg Fri 26-Jun-15 18:33:03

TaliZorah I was once almost run off the road by a high speed overtaker whom I then saw again down the road stopped by a police car - outside the Hendon Police Training College . . . I think the driver was hurrying to keep an appointment to get a brain transplant grin

reup Fri 26-Jun-15 18:33:24

People are mad when driving. I saw someone with a baby on his lap whilst driving.

This morning the woman behind me at a red light was drinking tea/coffee - not out if a travel cup but a china cup with a handle!

Andrewofgg Fri 26-Jun-15 18:35:43

reup I have also sat on a case where a woman pleased guilty to careless driving - the accident would not have happened if she had not been driving while breast-feeding. I like to say that it could only be a woman driver and see people take offence before I tell them what happened!

TaliZorahVasNormandy Fri 26-Jun-15 18:36:53

Andrew That must have been a sight to be hold. Karma at it's finest grin

NRomanoff Fri 26-Jun-15 18:39:46

Yanbu . People seem to lose all sense when driving. It infuriates me, they seemingly don't give a shit about the people they love in the car or any person on the roads either.

In most cases these people would go mad if some one put their child in danger.

TaliZorahVasNormandy Fri 26-Jun-15 18:40:33

Andrew There is silliness and then there is that! Breastfeeding while driving, some people really should not be driving or breeding!

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