Women are often poorer after a divorce, speaking in purely financial terms, and anecdotally, SAHMs who derived a certain status from their husband's job/profession/status, seem to feel the loss of that after divorce. Plus - anecdotally again - divorced women often complain that they are not invited by married friends to social occasions like dinner parties where there's an assumption that the majority of guests are couples. Or that a divorced woman is suddenly seen as either single and pitiable, or single and a predatory threat
This. You are also reduced automatically to some kind of second-class citizen if you are a single mum. People you barely know find it acceptable to ask you all kinds of pertinent questions they would never ask if you have a ring on your finger. This includes people who know you were once married. I am regularly asked, as a single mum of three, if my children have the same father, for example. Everyone thinks they can comment on how many holidays you have (because obviously, as you're on the 'single parent benefit' that doesn't exist, they have a right to pick over your life), the size and age of your car, the size and location of your house (I was once literally sniffed at with a 'I suppose we're paying for you to live in there' comment), the clothes your children wear, the fact you dare to go out once in a blue moon (think 'fags and vodka' comments) and god help you if you are seen with a man in a public place ('poor children, lots of uncles'). If you don't work, you're a scrounger, if you work part-time, you have something that many married couples couldn't afford (ie benefits allow you to stay at home and that's not OK whilst it is perfectly fine for a SAHM with a husband on the same in come as a single mum to stay at home) and if you work full-time it's 'poor children, always in childcare'
It's very upsetting and I find that it's constant.