Hi everyone. I'm Cookie, and I'm new round here. Nice to meet you all :)
Just wondering, as a person who's in her late twenties and has been single for almost ten years, AIBU to be angry when people tell me I 'just haven't met the right person yet'?
I identify as asexual (I'm not really attracted to either gender), but when I was younger, I was sure those feelings would come eventually. They never did. I had boyfriends, mostly to 'fit in', but I got nothing out of relationships/physical contact. I don't want to date anyone, kiss anyone, marry anyone etc. I just don't have that desire in me.
But since opening up to people about my asexuality, I've had a lot of support, but a lot of people tell me I just 'haven't met the right guy yet'. It makes me a bit angry, as I feel they're trying to invalidate my orientation.
On the one hand, I get that people care about me, and trying to support something they probs don't understand very much, and they don't want me to 'close any doors', but on the other hand, I think, people would never tell a straight woman that she 'just hasn't met the right woman yet'.
I'm probably overreacting, but I find it a bit insensitive (I AM quite a sensitive person anyway, I know). But when they say this, I feel like, they think I'm making it up b/c I'm a bit bored, and am passing time whilst waiting for a guy.
I'd just (grudgingly) come to terms with who I was, and was starting to own it and feel positive, and then people are like, 'Wait till a man comes along, then you'll change your mind and feel completely different'. But I don't know if AIBU to get irritated?
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AIBU to be angry when people tell me I 'haven't met the right person yet'? (A bit long, sorry)
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cookiec · 13/06/2015 12:43
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