Autistic DD - emotional

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naughtylist Wed 10-Jun-15 00:19:00

DD 8 wanted to do something for her birthday. Like many autistic children, she is not great socially and she doesn't really have many if any real friends. I feared rejection for her so suggested a quiet family party for her but she said she wanted to invite school friends. With a heavy heart, I sent out 7 invitations to go bowling in 2 weeks time. I told DD not to worry if they couldn't come as we would have a nice day anyway. Yet fucking 5 out of the 7 have responded saying they want to come. I could cry (I have cried). 2 of the parents said their dd's were so excited to come and nagging their parents. DD is so happy. It may not seem much to most people but this is like winning the lottery to us. I have seen a lot of posts from parents of autistic children here recently scared for the future. I am scared too especially with the amount of people that believe 'in my day, there was not autism, just naughty children' bullshit but days like these are really great.

Alambil Wed 10-Jun-15 00:29:09

oh that is fantastic!

happy birthday to your lovely DD

falgelednl Wed 10-Jun-15 00:30:36

Just saw this and wanted to come on and say 'how fabulous'. I was so ready to read that 5 out of 7 had turned down the invitation so I had a real moment when it was the other way round.
My daughter is also in this position and so often has decided not to 'bother' having a birthday party as she often cannot cope with all the anxiety of what/where/who and often just finds it overwhelming.

Feeling happy for your daughter (and you) - well done to those respondents!

SurlyCue Wed 10-Jun-15 00:32:05

It is a massive thing! I am so happy for your DD. I hope she has a fantastic day.

NickiFury Wed 10-Jun-15 00:35:54

I have an 8 year old dd with ASD too smile. It's massive, I am so happy for you. Best feeling in the world when things go well for these amazing kids of ours.

naughtylist Wed 10-Jun-15 00:38:21

Thank you guys, just automatically prepared us for rejection. For once, am am so positively overwhelmed.

SurlyCue Wed 10-Jun-15 00:44:04

When i was in primary school i had no friends, one year my mum sent invitations to my classmates for an "end of year party" without telling me (incase they said no) it was actually my birthday party but she knew no-one would come if she told them that. She surprised me on the day just saying that we were having a little party. She just wanted me to be able to have at least one birthday party.

ToadsJustFellFromTheSky Wed 10-Jun-15 00:52:47

Aww SurlyCue that was very nice of your mum smile.

OP before I read your whole post I thought you were going to say that no one was coming to the party. I'm glad I was wrong though.

I hope your dd has a fantastic birthday.

naughtylist Wed 10-Jun-15 00:55:20

SurlyCue your mum sounds great x

Kampeki Wed 10-Jun-15 00:56:54

That's lovely OP. Hope that your dd enjoys her party! smile

SurlyCue Wed 10-Jun-15 00:56:55

It broke her heart doing it tbh. I suppose much how you were feeling OP.

Laladeepsouth Wed 10-Jun-15 01:10:31

OP, so happy for you and your DD! Thanks for sharing! Hope you both have a lovely day!

MamaMotherMummy Wed 10-Jun-15 02:34:15

smile

stopgap Wed 10-Jun-15 02:37:27

That is such wonderful news. I know exactly how you feel. DS (nearly four) had his first play date today that wasn't a son/daughter of one of my friends, and it heartened me to see him having fun with kids from school.

The future is very bright for your daughter, I'm sure smile

ProudAS Wed 10-Jun-15 06:27:05

Great for your DD

Raffertys Wed 10-Jun-15 06:27:45

This is wonderful. You and your dd sound amazing. I hope she has the best day with her friends smile

silverglitterpisser Wed 10-Jun-15 09:07:52

Wonderful post smile. Hope ur dd has an amazing day. Am sure she will smile .

BettyCatKitten Wed 10-Jun-15 09:09:37

Your dd and you must be thrilled smile

AuntyMag10 Wed 10-Jun-15 09:11:32

How bloody fantastic!smile Hope your dd has a great day.

thegirlinthebed Wed 10-Jun-15 09:19:57

smile
DS has aspergers - so I can just imagine how happy you are

Have a great day!

FriendlyLadybird Wed 10-Jun-15 09:23:03

That's wonderful -- and bowling parties are such good fun. You'll all have a whale of a time.

Jacksterbear Wed 10-Jun-15 09:24:53

smile That's lovely.

(I have an 8yo with ASD too.)

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silveracorn Wed 10-Jun-15 09:30:41

That's lovely. I'm so glad for her.

reallybadidea Wed 10-Jun-15 09:34:07

That's so great. Hope she has a great time.

Librarina Wed 10-Jun-15 09:34:47

I'm so glad this is a happy ending. My DD is only 2 but I really hope that I can bring her up to be nice to others and accept party invitations happily. I've seen too many threads on hear from parents feeling sad about how their children are treated. Happy Birthday Little Miss Naughtylist,

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