So fucking upset

(123 Posts)
Noonegivesashit Thu 04-Jun-15 11:12:46

I've just told my DP its over. I'm packing my stuff and my DD's and we're going to stay at my mums.

He's never going to change, he's a selfish, arrogant, sexist pig who just wants a little woman who will say yes to everything, pander to his every whim and slave around him.

I'm sick of his family, dictating what I should and should not be doing, the sly digs, the nastiness, the fact that we live so close. I'm sick of the fact that I'm expected to drop everything to help him out but if I never get any help myself. I'm meant to be having a new fridge freezer delivered today (I've paid for it) and it's coming between 12-6pm but they will ring at least an hour before its dropped off so ideally I needed to be in the house from 11am until it arrives. I wanted to get the kitchen completely blitzed this morning and the old fridge moved so that we could get the new one in. DP comes in at 10 "can you do me two slices of toast a drink of juice and then we will go and do such an such," I was right in the middle of cleaning the cooker and asked if he could get his own toast and his own drink, he just ignored me and sat outside. Got his toast and drink and explained that I needed to get the kitchen cleaned and the fridge moved ready for when the new one arrives and that I wasn't going to go and help him because I didn't have time.

He stormed out of the house in a huff and went to go and do what ever it was he needed a hand with, I stupidly drove after him to go and help him and he's just said "that kitchen could have been cleaned three fucking days ago and you know it could, you spent all fucking day yesterday cleaning upstairs when you should've been doing the fucking kitchen and the living room that every one sees and walks past, get your fucking act together, it's an embarrassment." Do I really need to be spoken to like this??

I do everything for him, I hardly get anything done with DD (22 months) for obvious reasons and all he does is lounge about and expect me to do everything for him!

Degustibusnonestdisputandem Thu 04-Jun-15 11:14:30

YANBU. What a nasty piece of work he sounds. sad

Cherryblossomsinspring Thu 04-Jun-15 11:16:20

Get that bag packed and leave. He doesn't seem to care about you and to speak to you like that, well! I'm so sorry OP, I'm sure your heart is broken, it's very difficult to leave someone but I think you know it's the right thing. Good luck.

Calloh Thu 04-Jun-15 11:17:26

He sounds appalling - YANBU in the slightest at all.

Orange6358 Thu 04-Jun-15 11:19:04

You're better off without the lazy sod

Noonegivesashit Thu 04-Jun-15 11:21:00

I just keep going over stuff in my head and I know that I'm not the one being unreasonable and I know that I could handle stuff better sometimes but there's still a part of me that thinks I'm the one to blame because it's been like this for so long, he gets pissed off when I have friends around "too much". He doesn't seem to grasp the fact that no other woman would put up with this and now I'm not either.

I'm just so upset and angry, I'm not backing down is time.i need to show DD she should never settle for an arrogant chauvinistic pig like her father.

DixieNormas Thu 04-Jun-15 11:22:02

Cant you just pack his bag instead

BrittaTheNeedlesslyDefiant Thu 04-Jun-15 11:22:04

You're doing the right thing shock

What a twat

Number3cometome Thu 04-Jun-15 11:22:41

This is the lazy bastard who wouldn't change her nappy the other day right?

Best of out of it, let him find life by himself isn't so much fun when you have to do your own cleaning!

Toofat2BtheFly Thu 04-Jun-15 11:22:41

Your so brave , good luck flowers

QueenofallIsee Thu 04-Jun-15 11:23:56

Good for you love, if what you have described is typical then you are better off without him, no bloody question! He sounds like a right cunt

Friday99 Thu 04-Jun-15 11:24:28

he sounds horrid

poor you OP

gamerchick Thu 04-Jun-15 11:24:40

I agree pack his bags and tell him to sling his hook.

Wishful80smontage Thu 04-Jun-15 11:24:42

Good for you OP he sounds like a complete shit- I hope you're ok?

OurGlass Thu 04-Jun-15 11:25:28

Best of luck - don't go back.

cozietoesie Thu 04-Jun-15 11:25:30

You could always go across and read some of this board. I have a feeling that there are a few threads there that would resonate with you.

Good luck.

Noonegivesashit Thu 04-Jun-15 11:25:35

number3 yes it is, he's a complete lazy twat and I'm sick to death after everything I do for him, including looking after DSD all week last week for him,didn't get a thank you or fuk all.

Coming to think of it, I didn't get a Mother's Day card or a birthday card this year either!!! God I feel so appreciated right now!!!

Friday99 Thu 04-Jun-15 11:26:42

I see he still managed to get what he wanted - his toast and you to help him!

ENormaSnob Thu 04-Jun-15 11:28:05

Shoot the fucker

Noonegivesashit Thu 04-Jun-15 11:28:46

friday yes because that's what he's reduced me to!! He doesn't think he's doing anything wrong

lynniep Thu 04-Jun-15 11:29:03

Wow. There is so much wrong with what you wrote in your OP it staggers me. But there is one line that is right. And that's the first one.
Well done for getting out of there. Stay angry. Do NOT go back to him. You are brave and strong and doing exactly the right thing. He sounds like such a major tosser it astounds me.

machair Thu 04-Jun-15 11:30:52

Does he work? Has he always behaved like this? Has he ever had to look after DD on his own?

CrapBag Thu 04-Jun-15 11:32:30

I thought that too Friday. Not sure why you did that OP. Clearly he is lazy because he knows that you will do it for him, as you proved.

Are you going back to the house or have you just bought him a brand new fridge?

Don't let him change your mind. YANBU to not want to be with such a lazy shit and you are right to not want your DD to see this type of relationship.

BoyFromTheBigBadCity Thu 04-Jun-15 11:36:00

Good luck OP. Don't let him break you!

Friday99 Thu 04-Jun-15 11:37:06

You've bought him a fridge, you are removing yourself and dd from the family home and even after being treated appallingly you made his toast and did what he said.

WHy can't HE leave??

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