AIBU to have complained about NDN teenage party

[fortifiedwithtea]

I have had a shit evening. DD2 is 12 with SEN has really pushed my buttons. No sooner had she gone to bed the party started.

Teen next door is same age as DD1 they go to different schools. NDN teen has one very loud male friend who swears very loudly. I always know when he is there. I got to the point where I was sick of hearing fucking this and fucking that.

Was I being unreasonable to go round and tell NDN teen exactly how I felt; that DD2 couldn't sleep because of her loud mouth friend, I was fucking sick of hearing fucking this, fucking that and she might have finished her AS levels but DD1 has an exam tomorrow. I did let rip more as I'm in a foul mood already.

They have quietened down with the exception that loud mouth friend has now announced pizza has arrived

DD1 has made the observation that they will make less noise now they are eating

[blue42]

Only unreasonable if you swore whilst complaining about him swearing. Otherwise I think you're fully entitled to your opinion.

[fortifiedwithtea]

Yep, I told her I was fucked with hearing fucking through the wall as my 12 yo could hear it and it was keeping her awake.

Not my finest moment, I've had a very trying evening with no DH for support: he's away on business.

[Theycallmemellowjello]

To be honest, I think it sounds slightly unreasonable if this was the first time you went round. The first complaint has to be of the 'oh I'm terribly sorry, I'm sure you didn't realise, but we can hear you next door' variety, I think. You were within your rights to ask them to be quieter but I think rudeness wasn't called for. To be honest, talking loudly is not the worst crime, particularly as it's not very late. It's also generally a bad strategy: it gets their backs up and makes them less likely to do what you ask, and also if you start with an extreme reaction to don't have anywhere to go for the second complaint (which hopefully won't be needed). I'd maybe apologise tomorrow and explain more calmly about the noise problem. Sorry you had a trying day though.

[fortifiedwithtea]

TBH I'd rather be thought of as an unreasonable cow, there is no way I'm apologising!

Her friend doesn't talk loudly, he shouts. And this is the second such party I've listened to recently. The first one also mid-week, I was calm and asked politely they quieten down so they know how much can be heard through the walls.

The party is still going strong. I'm happy about the noise level of the music, its quieter than if the telly was on. DD1 is doing last minute revision so the tv is off. The swearing has stopped and DD2 is asleep