To be upset that Bruce Jenner has chosen my DDs name as her new identity?

(54 Posts)
Soupsetrightnow Mon 01-Jun-15 18:35:51

Before anyone starts hating on me I am one for live and let live. I have no issues with transgender and other such things. I really do believe in just letting people be people and judging if I like people based on their actions and words NOT on their age/race/gender/sexuality etc. My erractic friendship circle is proof of this. However in this case I am really upset because of the following concerns:

My DD is already currently being bullied, both verbally and physically at school. She is a timid child and often comes home upset. School are helping but there's only so much they can do.

The name she has chosen is not just the same but the same (somewhat unusual) spelling.

My DD is old enough that there are kids in her school year who WILL see the magazines, covers and name in the press. I don't want to out myself but she is into double figures so not young kids here. We are talking hormonal kids old enough to see and understand this stuff.

Kids are mean and nasty. I've been there and my DD is already there. It took me 7 years to shake a nasty nickname I was given in primary school.

I am just dreading the bullying getting worse. It only takes ONE person to see it and start "Caitlyn was a man" and she could be stuck with it for years.

AIBU or I am I being PFB about this? Please someone reassure me I am over reacting sad

AuntyMag10 Mon 01-Jun-15 18:37:47

Yanbu, off course he set out to specifically make your daughters life a misery. How selfish of him to choose a name that somebody else owns.

AuntyMag10 Mon 01-Jun-15 18:38:52

Yanbu, off course he set out to specifically make your daughters life a misery. How selfish of him to choose a name that somebody else owns.

Marshy Mon 01-Jun-15 18:39:59

You are over reacting.

Who is Bruce Jenner?

Kitsmummy Mon 01-Jun-15 18:41:54

Total overreaction I think, Caitlyn's a very normal name, I dont think kids will particularly pick up on this. Sorry that she's being bullied though x

MaidOfStars Mon 01-Jun-15 18:42:00

I have no idea what name Jenner selected (and not sure if 'Caitlyn' is the actual name - I guess not as that's a 'usual' spelling).

Buildmeabuttercup Mon 01-Jun-15 18:43:14

I was teased because of my name so I understand but you are being unreasonable. I'm surprised it's even crossed your mind it didn't mine and my friend has a Caitlyn.

SaucyJack Mon 01-Jun-15 18:43:26

I'm just surprised he didn't spell it with a K.

sonjadog Mon 01-Jun-15 18:43:54

I suspect it may be a coincidence.

On the other hand, if you know Bruce Jenner and think he may indeed have done it on purpose, I suggest you mention your concerns to him.

GladysTheGolem Mon 01-Jun-15 18:44:16

I'm more annoyed the daily mail have called her 'she'

Overreaction, Yabu but hope your school steps up.

Buildmeabuttercup Mon 01-Jun-15 18:44:28

maid it is Caitlyn he's chosen smile

yesiwouldlikefrieswiththat Mon 01-Jun-15 18:45:03

I came on to be a bit sarky, sorry blush

Reading your post though I actually see what you mean, I wouldn't have liked it in school either as a pre-teen/teen. Neither would I like dd to face more teasing from stupid kids who think it's hilarious

Yanbu

SoldierBear Mon 01-Jun-15 18:45:39

You are over reacting.
And Caitlyn isn't an unusual spelling.
why not see it as a positive? Bruce was a great role model and Caitlyn might be too, going by what Bruce said about wanting to be an ambassador. It's a lovely name chosen after a long period of consideration by a very brave and loving person.

LIZS Mon 01-Jun-15 18:46:23

Agree, you are overthinking this. Tomorrow's chip paper.

TessBrookes Mon 01-Jun-15 18:46:57

If kids are going to bully, they'll do it regardless. If it wasn't a name, they'd find something else to pick on if that way inclined.
YABU, sorry but you don't have a monopoly on names. He had to choose one and it would always be someone else's somewhere!

MrsDeVere Mon 01-Jun-15 18:49:36

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Soupsetrightnow Mon 01-Jun-15 18:52:13

I KNOW I am BU tbh but it's just bringing back sooo many bad flashbacks. At risk of outing myself there was an incident in my old school where some kids with the same name as a well known transgender person got some HORRIFIC abuse when that person came out. Kids are cruel as hell. I am already concerned for her just really really hope this doesn't end up being used to bully her.

The spelling is unusual here. I've not seen another. Usually you see Caitlin or Kaitlyn.

why not see it as a positive? Bruce was a great role model and Caitlyn might be too, going by what Bruce said about wanting to be an ambassador. It's a lovely name chosen after a long period of consideration by a very brave and loving person.

That is true and has really helped me thank you.

Soupsetrightnow Mon 01-Jun-15 18:54:28

If kids are going to bully, they'll do it regardless. If it wasn't a name, they'd find something else to pick on if that way inclined.

They already do I just hope it's not used as something else to add to their arsenal.

YABU, sorry but you don't have a monopoly on names. He had to choose one and it would always be someone else's somewhere!

I am aware of this which is why I was hoping people would tell me I'm over reacting. I guess I'm looking for reassurance that I AM being precious and I won't be facing a repeat of my childhood with my daughter.

Soupsetrightnow Mon 01-Jun-15 18:55:37

Are kids really interested in a middle aged MtoF transgender woman?

My niece reads gossip mags with Kardashians in and is similar age.

MissBattleaxe Mon 01-Jun-15 18:57:23

I'm more annoyed the daily mail have called her 'she'

But she is a she.

SoldierBear Mon 01-Jun-15 18:59:07

Glad I've helped.
Seriously, stress the positives to your DD and let her stand proud.
It's a great name and here's hoping Caitlyn Jenner has a great life and is a positive force.

ElPathetico Mon 01-Jun-15 19:00:13

MissBattleaxe

Did you look at the DM picture?

Lilicat1013 Mon 01-Jun-15 19:00:45

I have heard Kaitlyn rather than Caitlyn was being considered, I think it is just another rumour. The previous rumour was that his chosen name would be Belinda.

I think it is unlikely he would choose a name that would be wrong for his age*, Caitlin and spelling variants have only become popular recently so it more associated with children and teenagers than adult women.

I don't believe Bruce will go for a trendy K name in the style of his daughters and step daughters, although the media love that idea I think it would be a bit odd to do that. I suspect the name was chosen some time ago as Bruce has kept his feminine identity secret for a number of years so wont be as current in style was as K/Caitlyn is.

I can understand your concern, when you child is being targeted you don't want the nasty bullies to have anything else to use against them and once they have a target they tend to use anything they can against them.

Hopefully it will be an unfounded concern and a different name has been chosen or if K/Caitlyn is the chosen name the bullies don't use it as a way to tease your daughter.

As I said though if they are targeting her if it isn't this it will be something else so it might be worth considering other options to end the bullying. Is moving school an option?

*I am using he because in a recently interview Bruce said he was still using male pronouns currently

Soupsetrightnow Mon 01-Jun-15 19:01:19

MissBattleaxe I assume it's use of quotation marks that is annoying people. Using them implies it's a phase or not true etc.

NorahDentressangle Mon 01-Jun-15 19:01:57

It's prob 20+ years since you were bullied, I would think transgender stuff would be a bit boring for today's kids.

But they will pick on something if they can but prob the other Caitlyn will disappear from the front pages within 6 months or so, if not before.

Caitlyn's a lovely name - for most of your DD's life Bruce will be a distant memory.

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