We moved into a new house a year ago and we allocated one bedroom as our master bedroom, one as our baby's room, one as a guest room and the fourth one was going to be 'an office'. However, 'an office' became 'his office' as he literally stuck a sign with his name on the door.
From day 1 it's been full of boxes of his crap which I eventually persuaded him to unpack onto two IKEA Billy bookcases. Now 1 year down the line it is what I would refer to as a shithole. Think teenage boys bedroom mess multiplied by 10. Bearing in mind this is/was a lovely new build house.
The bookcases, are overflowing with junk.
The desk is piled with papers and dirty plates and cups.
The windowsill is lined with papers and dirty plates and cups.
The carpet is home to an overflowing bin, and is littered with papers, nik naks, and you guessed it, dirty plates and cups. Not much carpet visible actually.
It's a fire hazard as well as a horrible room to be in. I want to have a place to sit and work occasionally but I can't work in there because it's 'his' disgusting man cave of crap.
I offered to declutter and organise for him but he won't let me and gets quite angry at the suggestion, even when I promise not to actually throw away anything but just box the junk up for him to sort through at his convenience.
AIBU to completely blitz it (drastically declutter and organise the whole lot) when he's out one day and put all the junk in boxes for the garage, even though he's told me not to? 
I'd say the stuff needs to be reduced by about 80% for it to be a decent place to work in.
AIBU?
DH 'claimed' a room as his office and filled it with utter shit. AIBU to blitz it?
Flingmoo · 28/05/2015 14:21
OP are you me? 
My DH did EXACTLY the same thing with his office when we moved in!
I decided since he was so happy being surrounded by junk- to start treating the room as a dumping room for random stuff I wanted out of the way. He soon realised that his 'office' was no longer fit for purpose and set about organising it of his own accord!
get a sign and put your name on the door
presuming both names are on the deeds you have as much right to the room as he does. either he tidies it or you do. it is reasonable to put his stuff in boxes. not so much to put them in the garage, but I gues you could get rid a lot of the plates cups and muck.
OP are you me? My DH did EXACTLY the same thing with his office when we moved in!
OR are you me?
I am sort of relived this is a common thing to do... and not just a really fecking annoying trait of my DHs!
If you find a reasonable answer do let me know!
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Presumably, all those who think it's ok for the OP to go through all her dh's stuff and throw out 80% of it, would be equally happy if he came on here and said he was going to go through all the OP's things (be that shows or books or whatever hobby or collection she has) and decide which 20% she was "allowed" to keep ? 
Why not set up some work space for yourself in the other spare room, and arrange it how you like?
Why does your preference carry more weight than his?
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