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AIBU?

To think these people need to buy watches.

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exLtEveDallasNoBollocks · 27/05/2015 16:55

I'm in a grump, so moaning on here.

We are down our caravan. DD has been playing with a couple of girls all week like she does every holiday - nice girls, no problems.

Yesterday we made plans to meet up with other site friends at a local beach bar at 5. The sun was shining, we were going to sit outside and have dinner up there. At 3pm one of the friends asked if we'd keep an eye on them whilst mum and dad 'popped out to the shops'. We said no problem. Mum and dad passed by on the way to the car and checked it was OK, and said they'd only be a couple of hours at most. Well, that was bollocks - they didn't get back until gone 8pm. We let it go. DH went up and met our friends and I stayed in with the girls. We rearranged to meet at a different beach bar the next day.

Today at 1pm DD asked if she could go to the beach with the girls. Mum and dad came down and said they were going to walk their dog and would be back in about an hour and a half. We said yes, expecting DD to be back by 3 at the latest (because we were going out at 4).

Well, they aren't back.

Two days running we've fancied taking advantage of the great weather and have a drink in the sun with our friends, and two days running that's been bollocksed up by these people.

And now the sun's gone in and it's trying to rain.

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PattiODoors · 27/05/2015 16:58

Oh grrrrr

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WorraLiberty · 27/05/2015 17:01

Oh god that does sound annoying.

Mind you, I always mention a time if I'm going out so I would have said "That's fine but we're going out at X time".

Can I just add how jealous I am of your caravan?

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YsabellStoHelit · 27/05/2015 17:15

I would make sure I specifically stated "that's fine but we need to go out at X time" on both occasions.

TreadSoftlyOnMyDreams · 27/05/2015 17:24

They probably think they are doing you a favour by "reciprocating" yesterdays "popping to the shops". You need to set out your expectations.

I'd be pretty pissed off though since they said that they'd be an hour and a half and its now 4 hours later? WTF. Don't you have a phone number for them?

ItsTricky · 27/05/2015 17:25

They are assholes who obviously think the world revolves around them. A 'couple of hours' is two hours - max!! Make sure you tell them they've messed up your plans, twice, then stay out of their way from now on.

CrystalCove · 27/05/2015 17:28

Hope you let them know when they eventually get back, did they kniw you had plans today?

WinterOfOurDiscountTents15 · 27/05/2015 17:28

I think you;re mad to not see your friends, if thats what you want to do, to hang around and wait on strangers. They're on holiday, they don't owe you anything and they don't need to follow your timetable.

WinterOfOurDiscountTents15 · 27/05/2015 17:29

Oh wait, I think I've read wrong. Ignore me.

exLtEveDallasNoBollocks · 27/05/2015 19:21

They got back at 5.45. DD had a great time but was filthy and knotty, so we have shower wars now!

I should have said something before they went, I really should, but didn't think.

I'm still hacked off though, not that DD knows. Bloody people.

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exLtEveDallasNoBollocks · 27/05/2015 19:23

And it's raining

And DH is sulking (and I feel like it).

Gah.

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ItsTricky · 27/05/2015 20:26

Nearly 5 hours... what!! I'd be fuming and bloody worried. Had they called in that time to say dd was ok?

Fatmomma99 · 27/05/2015 20:51

Can I just put another pov forward... Yesterday you looked after their child. Today they offered to look after yours. I think that's nice.

If they'd expected you to sit their child again and were late to pick up, I'd have been raving. But it seems to me they weren't taking the piss. People are generally less bothered by timetables on holiday, and unless they knew you had plans, I don't think they've done a terrible thing.

(runs away and hides)

Troglodad · 27/05/2015 21:11

Yeah, they probably didn't mean it.

Now you have learnt they are running on relaxed holiday time, you can politely refuse offers/requests and move on. I wouldn't waste any energy being huffy about it - they really probably didn't mean it.

no73 · 27/05/2015 21:22

YABU you never told them you had plans or stipulated what time you wanted your daughter back. They can't mind read.

ttc2015 · 27/05/2015 21:25

Be more assertive tomorrow OP 'sorry but we've got plans'.

exLtEveDallasNoBollocks · 27/05/2015 21:41

You are right, but tbh when someone specifically says "we'll only be about an hour and a half" then I expect them to be an hour and a half, two at the max, not 5, nearly 6. That's a bloody long time on the beach (apparently they stopped at the beach bar that we intended to meet our friends at, although DD says she doesn't remember seeing them). I should have known better - it was 5 hours yesterday wasn't it.

I'm not furious, DD had a good time and they were nice to her (Although I'm a bit pissed off because her face is v pink, bordering on sunburn - she did have cream on but only factor 15) but I do think it's taking the piss.

DD wants to do the fair tomorrow, so it shouldn't happen again.

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ttc2015 · 27/05/2015 21:49

Oh I'm not saying you aren't right but you should have said something to them after and you should now recognise that these people have no concept of time.

Get your DD some Aloe Vera, at least it won't happen tomorrow.

yourlovealoneisnotenough · 27/05/2015 22:04

Six hours is taking the piss. Did they apologise or offer an explanation?

My PILs are like that. No watches, no care for anyone else's plans, no apologies for messing everyone about. It drives me spare and it's very arrogant I think.

exLtEveDallasNoBollocks · 27/05/2015 22:06

I've covered DD in sudocreme so fingers crossed she should be OK (I've also threatened to cut all her hair off after the hair brushing tantrum - it was like a birds nest on her head ). My own sunburn is bloody painful - serves me right for sulking outside.

DH is still in a grump - if we do the fair tomorrow we won't go to the bar again. It depends on the weather I suppose. Not sure it's a good idea for me to be out in the sun again.

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ItsTricky · 28/05/2015 08:41

You live and learn, op. At least you'll only see them on holiday. I have a flaky friend who (although lovely) has me seething with repressed anger everytime we arrange something. She can never be on time and rearranges plans at the last minute. We've missed the start of many cinema films. I've had her text me when we've already arrived at arranged destination waiting for her to arrive to say 'how do I get there?' We've not been able to park at busy attractions as we've got there too late. We've had to leave parks because she forgot drinks for her dc's. I take extra drinks and snacks now in case she forgets hers! I got to her house once for prearranged coffee date and she said she just needed to pop to Tesco for teabags and she was gone an hour and her child had a tantrum as I had no idea how to work the xbox! It's an absolute ballache I could do without. I'd happily just have a day out with my own dd but she loves flaky friend's dd so I have to go through this regularly! I'm getting wound up just thinking about it now

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