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AIBU?

Don't want an x-box in the house.

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Goldmandra · 27/05/2015 16:43

DD1 (18) has just finished Y13 exams and will be off to university in the Autumn.

She is, quite reasonably, revelling in her free time, spending lots of time at the stables, and lounging around in her room on social media. She's also going to help me redecorate most of the house over the summer ready to put it on the market.

She has decided she would like to buy a second hand x-box. She has the money in her savings so wouldn't need us to contribute.

However, we already have iPads, laptops and a Wii in the house and the whole family spends far too much time on screens ignoring each other. DH will have no self control and want to play on it night and day and DD2 (12) will be desperate to get on it but DD1 will have ownership so I foresee lots of conflict.

Added to that, I think DD1 ought to be saving her money because we can't afford to help her out an awful lot with her living expenses when she goes away.

I am being a massive killjoy and I know I don't really have the right to stop her but she is a good girl and won't get one without my blessing.

IABU aren't I?

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ollieplimsoles · 27/05/2015 16:46

I would let her buy one... I bought a second hand PS2 when I finished uni and took it away with me when I moved out. We already had consoles/ tvs in the house. I let my little sister play on it too, it wasn't a problem.

She has worked hard, she deserves to make a bit of a fun purchase with her own money Grin

CatsCantTwerk · 27/05/2015 16:49

Yes yabu, she is an adult and wants to buy something with her own money. I understand your concerns about screen time but she is 18.

KoalaDownUnder · 27/05/2015 16:51

Eh.

Torn, because I bloody hate the things, but...she's 18, and sounds like a good''un. I'd let her (grudgingly Grin).

catsandstuff · 27/05/2015 16:53

She's 18, don't be ridiculous.

PattiODoors · 27/05/2015 16:55

I would hope that she has a telly in her room so it doesn't encroach into "family space".Will help in defining the xbox as "hers" as well.

Fudgeface123 · 27/05/2015 16:56

I'm with you OP actually. There's only DP and me at home and he asked me what I thought about getting an Xbox or other type of games console. I told him the truth, said I'd be disappointed if he got as we don't get a lot of time together (he works away in the week) so he didn't get one.

usualsuspect333 · 27/05/2015 16:57

She is 18. I don't think you can tell her what to spend her own money on.

GlitzAndGigglesx · 27/05/2015 16:59

18 is an adult. An adult spending their own money how they choose

Goldmandra · 27/05/2015 17:00

I would hope that she has a telly in her room so it doesn't encroach into "family space".Will help in defining the xbox as "hers" as well.

She doesn't have a TV in her room as she watches it on the iPad or uses a portable DVD player.

We have a small downstairs playroom/study with a sofa and a small tv in it she could use. I'm not sure if that's better or not.

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PunkrockerGirl · 27/05/2015 17:03

Yes, YABU.

YsabellStoHelit · 27/05/2015 17:03

I was banned from consoles but had a pc (as needed for college). I bought a playstation, hooked it up to monitor and hid it in a drawer. If my mum found it she never said a word...

PattiODoors · 27/05/2015 17:04

D'you know what. Say yes because she's off in the Autumn so you'll already have a cut off date iyswim.

Goldmandra · 27/05/2015 17:05

An adult spending their own money how they choose

I know but she has also asked for my opinion/permission/blessing and it will have an impact on the whole family.

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splemp · 27/05/2015 17:08

She's 18, be bloody thankful it it isn't a motorcycle.

Goldmandra · 27/05/2015 17:09

I think the MN jury has voted.

I'll tell her she has my blessing tonight.

Maybe the departure of the x-box will help me feel better about her going off to university.

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ollieplimsoles · 27/05/2015 17:09

Are you a bit worried that she will be spending her time on the xbox instead of with the family before she goes away to uni OP?

ollieplimsoles · 27/05/2015 17:10

x posted OP I think you just answered the question-

Maybe the departure of the x-box will help me feel better about her going off to university.

Bless you x

BarbarianMum · 27/05/2015 17:10

Then tell her your opinion - it's up to her, but....

She can always get one once she leaves home. But maybe you have a wider problem with screen use you need to address?

Seriouslyffs · 27/05/2015 17:10

I think as long as she takes it with her to University it will be fine.

Goldmandra · 27/05/2015 17:12

She's 18, be bloody thankful it it isn't a motorcycle.

Good point!

The lunatic horses she rides are bad enough!

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Goldmandra · 27/05/2015 17:14

But maybe you have a wider problem with screen use you need to address?

I think it's me that has the problem rather than the family.

I loved it when our tv broke and we couldn't afford to replace it for a few months. That was before we had iPads and iPlayer, etc. There's no escape now!

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Goldmandra · 27/05/2015 17:17

Are you a bit worried that she will be spending her time on the xbox instead of with the family before she goes away to uni OP?

I think I'm resigned to that whether it's her phone, iPad or an x-box. She's 18 and doesn't want to hang round with us that much these days which is good in a way.

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BarbarianMum · 27/05/2015 17:29
PracticalFriend · 27/05/2015 17:31

I would be gutted if she bought an XBox.

They are awful.

Much better to get a PS3.

Goldmandra · 27/05/2015 17:34

Much better to get a PS3.

Please educate me. I don't have the first idea about either of them.

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