...to invite dd's friend to wedding

(25 Posts)
robinlovesfatman Mon 25-May-15 08:58:03

Having small wedding. OH really wants it close family and friends. Haven't invited mummy friends but really want to include dds best friend and parents. Feel conflicted. If I invite them other friends in close mum circle might feel put out. I have known this mum for years though. Also she has known about wedding for awhile and might think my adding them on last minute is because people have pulled out.

Am I over thinking this?

snowglobemouse Mon 25-May-15 09:06:36

'mummy friends'. YABU

MrsNextDoor Mon 25-May-15 09:10:40

Yes...what do you mean "Mummy friends" confused

Also how old is DD? If she's a toddler then YABU. If she's a teen....just invite her friend. Don't understand why you'd invite the parents of your child's friend to a small wedding.

robinlovesfatman Mon 25-May-15 09:19:44

Ha! Have I made a faux pas? I just meantmum who is in a group of mum friends I have

MrsNextDoor Mon 25-May-15 09:42:48

I think on this site it's always advisable to avoid defining women as "Mummies" in any aspect of their life.

I would not invite them from what you say. How old is your DD?

WinterOfOurDiscountTents15 Mon 25-May-15 09:59:41

It's your wedding, invite who you want to invite. It really is that simple.

msgrinch Mon 25-May-15 10:33:14

ask netmums.

PtolemysNeedle Mon 25-May-15 10:34:07

I know what you mean by mummy friends, I have no idea why people on here get so offended by the term.

We invited some of ten ds's friends and their parents to our wedding, although it was a big wedding, and the parents were happy to celebrate with us at the same time as knowing that they'd really been invited because our children wanted to invite their children. It was fine.

DaysAreWhereWeLive Mon 25-May-15 10:37:22

Christ some of you are fucking rude.

OP, ignore the judgemental posts, invite who you like. Congratulations!

KurriKurri Mon 25-May-15 10:38:16

Oh for goodness sake - does it really matter if Op used the word Mummies, can't people just answer a question on here without having a go?

OP -I think you should ask her, it will be nice for your DD to have a friend at the wedding, I wouldn't worry about what others think, if anyone says anything just say 'oh it was a very small do' or something. None of their business who you invite - its your day, have a lovely onesmile

Alisvolatpropiis Mon 25-May-15 10:40:13

I'd just invite the parents and child you want to invite.

The others might feel a bit aggrieved but it's highly unlikely they're going to demand an explanation, normal people don't!

Some of the responses here are just uncessarily rude.

PolterGoose Mon 25-May-15 10:42:55

How about doing a special invite to your dd's best friend with her parents as her 'plus 1's?

Chunkymonkey79 Mon 25-May-15 10:44:31

Yanbu! Your wedding, you decide!

On another note, ignore the fucking rude people having a pop. Some people can't just answer a question without being an arse grin

BlinkAndMiss Mon 25-May-15 10:48:27

Why are people so picky on here? I think the OP has used the term 'mummy friends' to determine the type of relationship she has with them rather to be derogatory about women.

OP I'd go ahead and invite her, one of my 'mummy friends' got married and only invited one other mum from the group. The rest of us honestly didn't feel put out at all, they had a closer relationship than the rest of us did with her and it didn't make thinkpgs awkward at all. They should understand really and they'd probably do the same.

snowglobemouse Mon 25-May-15 17:18:12

OP I was an arsehole in my first reply, sorry. I hate that term but that's not your problem smile

Cocolepew Mon 25-May-15 17:23:08

Ffs, whats with the arsey replies.
Invite who you want, if someone gets the hump thats their problem.

Cocolepew Mon 25-May-15 17:23:12

Ffs, whats with the arsey replies.
Invite who you want, if someone gets the hump thats their problem.

CaffeinatedKitten Mon 25-May-15 17:37:52

I love the idea of a 'child-to-child' invite with a +parents if the child is of an age where a good friend would help alleviate the dullness of a massive formal event with precious few shits and giggles for them to enjoy. I think it would also make it straight amongst your other comrades-in-parenting that the invitation was purely for the benefiot of the child and no snubs were intended.

Lolimax Mon 25-May-15 17:40:37

We got married last year and let the older ones invite friends to the evening. It was lovely.

Koalafications Mon 25-May-15 17:49:03

No need for the arsey replies.

OP, it's your wedding, invite whoever you and your DH to be want there.

Brummiegirl15 Mon 25-May-15 18:05:01

I don't know what it is but I cannot bear the word "mummy friends" either.

"All Mummies out together" it really sets my teeth on edge - but that is completely my issue!!

However I think it would be lovely to invite your DD's best friend

robinlovesfatman Mon 25-May-15 18:25:34

OK! I have invited and very pleased!

I will call her simply friend. OK Huns? grin

Cocolepew Mon 25-May-15 18:26:52

grin
Have a great day flowers

Swingball Mon 25-May-15 18:29:29

Have a lovely day!

snowglobemouse Mon 25-May-15 19:05:15

sounds lyk a gud plan hun xoxox

wink

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