To find this so fucking offensive?

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KorsILoveMichael Sun 24-May-15 23:22:16

Not sure if I'm overreacting.

A semi famous social media person uploaded a photo to there Instagram of them with a sellotape wrapped around their face up to their nose to resemble tubes. Making fun of the film Fault in our Stars, a film about a girl with cancer.

I said I found it disgusting to be told I shouldn't be offended because

"It's a fucking film! She didn't really have cancer! Go to bed you fucking noodle!"

Seriously aibu?

KorsILoveMichael Sun 24-May-15 23:25:10

*their

Sorry that's how pissed off I am

Nevercallmehun Sun 24-May-15 23:25:58

Yanbu

WorraLiberty Sun 24-May-15 23:26:27

I think offence is such a personal thing really, so YANBU if you find it offensive but I would say equally YANBU if you didn't.

I don't think it's particularly funny but I can't take offence at it either.

Unhelpful of me I know grin

yesiwouldlikefrieswiththat Sun 24-May-15 23:27:39

Because not being able to breathe is hilarious hmm

Yanbu it may just be a film but cancer is real.

Offensive and disrespectful imo

Fatmomma99 Sun 24-May-15 23:29:22

But I can imagine if you've known someone with cancer, it would be very upsetting.

I feel quite defensive of this film because it was the first one my DD and all her besties went to at the cinema without a grown up, and they all sobbed buckets.

It's a book/film DESIGNED to push your buttons - it's a weepie.

So it's a YNBU from me.

(have a glass of water before you crash!)

PuntasticUsername Sun 24-May-15 23:33:06

So who made the remark that upset you? The person who'd posted the photo, or a random commenter?

Well...either way really...that's kind of what happens on the internet. It's crap when people feel the need to have a go at you for no good reason, but it's how it goes. Nothing you can do about it really.

So if you're going to be on the internet much more in future, I'd suggest a) developing a thicker skin and b) being careful not to accidentally insult people or call them bullies or anything, otherwise you might find people go out of their way to insult you even more.

Kaekae Sun 24-May-15 23:38:35

I would find it disturbing. Why would anyone want to make fun of someone with cancer?

anotherdayanothername1 Sun 24-May-15 23:42:14

Who is it?

LionsTeeth Sun 24-May-15 23:42:48

Additionally offensive because the author, John Green, was inspired to write the book by a young girl he met and became friends with who had cancer and unfortunately passed away.

EatShitDerek Sun 24-May-15 23:43:13

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PuntasticUsername Sun 24-May-15 23:48:11

Oh, hang on a minute. It was someone you know irl who said this to you?

In that case, YWNBU.

WorraLiberty Sun 24-May-15 23:48:16

That's what I'm wondering Derek

Where they just copying the character's look 'fancy dress style', or trying to be deliberately offensive to cancer victims?

During the 80s there were tons of people dressed as Elephant Man at fancy dress parties.

Not because they were trying to offend anyone with a congenital disorder/facial disfigurement, but because Elephant Man was a popular film.

EatShitDerek Sun 24-May-15 23:53:14

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anotherdayanothername1 Sun 24-May-15 23:54:53

Can you post the link op so we can better judge?

KorsILoveMichael Mon 25-May-15 00:47:51

So if you're going to be on the internet much more in future, I'd suggest a) developing a thicker skin and b) being careful not to accidentally insult people or call them bullies or anything, otherwise you might find people go out of their way to insult you even more

See I don't get this. The internet is full of absolutely vile things like beheadings, extreme porn, torture etc and whilst this is not in the same league just because it's the Internet why is it ok?

Why is standing up and saying "this is wrong" mean you need to develop a thick skin? I'm not crying into my pillow. I'm going against the pack and saying, this isn't funny.

Apparently the logic of it is it's ok for him to pretend to have tubes up his nose impersonating a girl with cancer because she's not a real person and next apparently I'll be saying people shouldn't take photos with their eyes open in case they offend people who have no eyes .... Right ... Exactly the same thing hmm

KorsILoveMichael Mon 25-May-15 00:52:32

Does that mean the actress in the film is taking the piss out of cancer patients as she doesn't have it and was wearing fake tubes?

No the same way I don't think the actors in Schindlers List were taking the piss out of Holocaust victims.

However would you find it amusing if I posted a joke about the holocaust or took a funny photo in a gas chamber pretending to be dying?

Pretty much a whole world of difference.

EatShitDerek Mon 25-May-15 01:11:54

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KorsILoveMichael Mon 25-May-15 01:16:11

HE is making fun of a character that has cancer by sticking rolled sellotape to his nose to look like tubes.

EatShitDerek Mon 25-May-15 01:17:37

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KorsILoveMichael Mon 25-May-15 01:19:27

Well Derek you seem like the sort of person that would have found someone dressing up as the World Trade Centre hilarious so we are thankfully very different.

EatShitDerek Mon 25-May-15 01:22:32

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KorsILoveMichael Mon 25-May-15 01:26:08

Well frankly I just can't ever take you seriously after your hysterical break down over being banned on here.

Made for very embarrassing viewing.

KorsILoveMichael Mon 25-May-15 01:27:08

Is the World Trade Centre a film?! No, so not sure what the connection is that you are trying and failing to make

I guess you just failed to read the news. Never mind.

EatShitDerek Mon 25-May-15 01:29:13

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