AIBU to lock the bedroom door and sleep in a comfy bed sigh :)

(46 Posts)
whatisforteamum Sat 23-May-15 22:22:37

My DH has been golfing all day while I did chores the worked 10 hrs in a hot busy kitchen.My boss told me to go at 830 which is great as usually I get home 1130 exhausted.Dh would be home by then and we could have a drink in the garden as im working all bank hols.Turns out he went into town with the lads sounded drunk on the phone.Nothing wrong with this but having trapped a nerve in his back and been in a foul mood for weeks I am amazed he has walked about all day!!
Also being too tired to go anywhere with me and letting me sleep downstairs for 12 yrs (bad snoring) and makes smug faces with his hands behind his head when I point out I would like to sleep in a bed and he could at least take turns when im ill or now I am pretty much fulltime .

I wanted this sorted before Df passes away as he is terminally ill and don't see why I should sleep downstairs without a bed while I would be grieving

.So here I am cosy and bathed being the superior one.Of course with his bad back he will suffer but maybe just maybe he will know how I feel curled up on my makeshift bed.I have locked the door and look forward to a comfy sleep before work again night night xx[grin

Icimoi Sat 23-May-15 22:25:01

Yanbu. I hope you've got earplugs in in case he starts beating on the door expecting to be allowed in.

Rudawakening Sat 23-May-15 22:26:33

Please tell me 12yrs is a typo!!

gamerchick Sat 23-May-15 22:26:35

12 years? Why on earth haven't you bought a sofa bed or something? You should be taking turns if you haven't a spare room man.

Enjoy your kip.

SpringBreaker Sat 23-May-15 22:26:53

why are you still with him?

FannyFifer Sat 23-May-15 22:27:20

Where the hell have you been sleeping for 12 years?

PotteringAlong Sat 23-May-15 22:30:55

Surely after 12 years you'd just have seperate bedrooms?!

LTB seems the only suitable response.

TheBookofRuth Sat 23-May-15 22:34:26

There's something seriously wrong in your relationship if he's let you sleep on the sofa for 12 years.

Fluffcake Sat 23-May-15 22:37:27

12 years on the sofa???? I can barely do 1 night. Invest in decent sofa bed if you haven't already, take turns on using it and see gp about snoring (not sure who is snoring).

Doilooklikeatourist Sat 23-May-15 22:37:56

Don't understand
Why can't you sleep in a bed every night

Fluffcake Sat 23-May-15 22:38:03

And barricade yourself in bedroom! wink

ememem84 Sat 23-May-15 22:39:01

Agree. Surely separate rooms?

lordsandladies Sat 23-May-15 22:40:36

Are you serious?? Don't lock the bedroom barricade the front door with divorce papers nailed to it!

whatisforteamum Sat 23-May-15 22:40:40

YUP ear pugs in his pillows on the landing with his dressing gown .we don't have spare room as dcs have other 2,we did talk about taking turns but all the flimsy sofa beds I looked at wont take his weight.when he had heartattack I took pity on him same as when he worked 55 hrs a week but its Never my turn except tonight.I did think about renting a room but some have age restrictions and I am 48 well past 35 !He says I can sleep next to him but will not use snore sprays and strips he has.

Does he gave any redeeming features?

whatisforteamum Sat 23-May-15 22:46:34

he said he would be home early and as as sober as a judge with all the lads giggling he is 55 ffs shame he has no energy or time or respect for the person he ha lied with for 28 yrs.I have savings but not enough to ltb and his angry now selfish ways....not sure the man I knew is coming back.

BabyGanoush Sat 23-May-15 22:53:58

Sorry but this all sounds so sad and awful.

Hope you find strength to deal with this selfish fucker soon.

Getting to sleep in you bed this once is no victory at all, is it?

You'll have an angry drunk home soon too sad

Hope he stays out all night and you have a nice night's sleep

LumpySpacedPrincess Sat 23-May-15 22:53:59

Why are you with him?

Charlotte3333 Sat 23-May-15 22:57:29

God alive how have you restrained yourself from putting a pillow over his face before now?

DH snores terribly. Our rule is that if he wakes me up, I kick him (gently -ish- ) and try to go back to sleep. If I can't I wake him up and he goes and kips in the spare bedroom. He's the one doing the snoring, he should be the one buggering off elsewhere. Kick him out of there permanently and enjoy some proper sleep.

SaltyandSweet Sat 23-May-15 22:58:27

This sounds so sad. You deserve better than this. How long is long enough to suffer this sort of life?

Rudawakening Sat 23-May-15 22:59:24

Jesus after 12 yrs I'd of divorced him. Utterly selfish of him to make you sleep on the sofa all the time.

whatisforteamum Sat 23-May-15 23:02:31

he was kind now he is an overweight bully with heart meds and ED.he doesn't even earn much ad makes a big deal if I ask him to bother shaving t get shopping or do the school run I cant talk if emmerdale is on or I get short shrift.The golf is one a month tbhI must sort this out before Df dies which wil be sooner than later sad

PenguinsandtheTantrumofDoom Sat 23-May-15 23:03:52

What a selfish twat.

And at a serious health level, if his snoring is that bad there is probably a medical reason.

12 years on a sofa? ! Sometimes mn leaves me speechless.

PenguinsandtheTantrumofDoom Sat 23-May-15 23:04:52

Cross post.sad what are you getting out of this relationship?

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