exDP and I split up when DD was 2 about 3 years ago (DD is now 5), she moved 100 miles away just before she started school 2 years ago and I went from having DD 4/5 nights a week to just having her at weekends for two nights a week.
Anyway I have her every weekend without fail drive the 200 mile round trip twice in three days so that I can see her. This weekend, however exDP was coming over to visit her family who still live here. She said that she would fetch DD over on Friday night but wanted her back on Saturday afternoon because her grandad was having a birthday party and then they were going to her aunties for dinner on Sunday so exDP would bring her back to me after she'd had her dinner. I thought it sounded as though DD was being passed from pillar to post a bit so I asked exDP if it would be a better idea for her to have DD Friday night and Saturday night plus Sunday morning and then fetch her to me so that she isn't having a broken visit and also it's half term next week and exDP wants me to have DD for the whole week. I just thought it would be nice for them to have a full day together during the holidays.
As it stands at present, DD is at school 5 days a week and goes to three after school clubs on a tuesda, Wednesday and Thursday night then she's with me on a Friday night.
I seem to have DD all holiday every holiday, or at least the majority, DD only spent 5 days with her DM throughout the 6 week break. I love having her and have no other issue with this arrangement other than what affect seeing so little of her DM is having in DD.
If you think about it she will only see DD for an hour or so before school Nd a couple of hours after school on a night.
I know that she's hard work, especially when she's ratty and tired, I understand this but you would think that she would WANT to spend a day or two with her without the interruption or school and clubs. She doesn't work and has a partner t home. My current DP thinks that maybe she's a bit depressed with the strain of the school runs and having a ratty child after school etc. Shes also noted that exDP seems to avoid spending one on one time with DD, she only seems to want her if they're going to a family event or staying over at her dads where there will be a lot of people around. ExDP seems fairly upbeat in herself but I just wanted someone else's perogative on the situation. I have nothing but sympathy towards her and just want to help. DD seems to be becoming despondent and has mentioned quite a few times recently that she doesn't get to see a lot of mummy anymore.
Please, no flaming, I've come on here with honest intentions and just want some advice on how to approach matters.
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To think that my exDP would want to see more of our DD during the holidays?
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daddytillidie · 23/05/2015 18:18
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