To want to burst into tears

(30 Posts)
Dinopawstomp Fri 22-May-15 19:25:10

My lovely dog who I've had for over a decade had to be put down this week. He had a massive stroke and it was the only option available. It happened so fast. I am devastated and keep bursting into tears at the drop of a hat or whenever anything reminds me of him.

I get to Friday and start thinking well at least this week is over with, then I pick up my child from nursery to be told he has been naughty (won't go into details as this might out me). This is so out of character for him I am completely shocked. Got what felt like a bit of a talking to ( not sure whether I am reading into this because I'm feeling very sensitive at the moment).

Just feel like weeping.

I know on the scale of things these are not major problems and people have much much bigger issues to deal with. I just feel so sad and it feels like the world turned on it head.

textfan Fri 22-May-15 19:26:47

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TestingTestingWonTooFree Fri 22-May-15 19:26:54

You've had a really shitty week, the fact that other people might have had worse doesn't take away from that. Try and be kind to yourself.

BarbarianMum Fri 22-May-15 19:28:04

Of course you are not being U. Yes, other people have worse probs but that's pretty much always the case. flowers

APlaceOnTheCouch Fri 22-May-15 19:28:29

Oh, poor you. You've had a tough week. Sorry to hear about your dog. flowers It may be that your DS was acting up because it's been an upsetting time for him too. Cuddle up on the sofa and be kind to yourself and DS.

confusedandemployed Fri 22-May-15 19:30:46

I'm so sorry to hear about your lovely dog. flowers
I agree with PP, your DS is grieving too. Be kind to the pair of you. ((()))

TheoriginalLEM Fri 22-May-15 19:32:54

I am so sorry for your loss. It is OK to grieve, why wouldn't you? A pet is part of your family, I feel closer to my dogs than most people, I will be devestated if anything happens to them. It is heart breaking and you should be kind to yourself.

It may well have made you feel sensitive today, but it sounds like the nursery staff were rude about your DS, yes they should let you know if there are some behaviour issues but work with you to sort it out, not tell you off!

flowers

PurpleDaisies Fri 22-May-15 19:34:25

Of course you're upset...you've lost a friend of over ten years. Really sorry for your loss.

Do you think your child might be acting out because they are sad too? Even if this naughtiness is unrelated all kids mess up sometimes-it doesn't mean you're a bad mum.

You've had a rotten week. Be kind to yourself and try and do something nice (my pick me up of choice is chocolate). flowers

Dinopawstomp Fri 22-May-15 19:38:07

Thank you all. I'm welling up reading these posts.

It's just horrible. My other dog looks so lost and confused sad

I keep thinking he's going to walk in the room.

hellhasnofurylikeahungrywoman Fri 22-May-15 19:39:48

You've had a shitty week, I'd be in tears in your situation too. Do nursery know what has happened, it could well be affecting DC's behaviour.

Lifeisacaberet Fri 22-May-15 19:47:37

I'd be exactly the same. Our dog is the only family member to be happy to see me 24/7 ��

Yarp Fri 22-May-15 19:49:41

Of course YANBU

It's grief. It's legitimate

My cat is 19 and in dodgy health. I know I will be stricken when she dies. She's my baby

Dinopawstomp Fri 22-May-15 19:49:48

He's very young so I think he's reacting to us being upset not missing the dog IYSWIM.

I'm fighting the urge to rush out and get another dog just to stop the pain. Then I feel guilty for that! I won't as I'm not ready yet.

Yarp Fri 22-May-15 19:50:42

And yes, your child might have been naughty because he was sad or he senses you are.

Yarp Fri 22-May-15 19:51:14

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Koalafications Fri 22-May-15 19:52:26

YANBU.

I think your DS is acting out because he is sad about your dog.

flowers

Koalafications Fri 22-May-15 19:53:16

x-post.

AuntyMag10 Fri 22-May-15 19:53:22

Yanbu, sorry about your dog op. He was a part of your family so it is a big loss and you are grieving. It's also a change for your ds so he may be acting out too. thanks

SallyMcgally Fri 22-May-15 19:56:30

YANBU at all. It's so so hard to lose pets thanks I bet you gave your dog a really lovely home xx

HicDraconis Fri 22-May-15 19:57:41

flowers wine brew

If you feel like crying, then cry. You've lost a family member that you've known for over 10 years - you are grieving and it's natural. I'd have been in floods at the nursery. How old is DS? He may not be grieving the loss as you are, but I'm sure he's picking up on your mood and emotions which is more than likely the reason for him acting up at nursery. Give him lots of cuddles and allow all of you some time this weekend.

[hug emoticon] brew cake

IPokeBadgers Fri 22-May-15 19:58:15

Losing a pet is terrible. You have had a shit week. Have a good weep when child is in bed. be kind to yourself over next few weeks - hugs thanks

Debinaround Fri 22-May-15 19:58:15

thanks For you op.

You have had a shit week so if you want a bit of a cry then have one. X

BuntyBonus Fri 22-May-15 21:02:26

So sorry about the loss of your dog. They are part of our family and it is devastating when they go. Be kind to yourself and cry and grieve. He was a lucky dog to have been so loved and to have had such an impact on your lives.

goldwrapped Fri 22-May-15 21:08:53

YANBU. I'm studying death and dying with the OU. There's a whole section on loss of a pet - it's recognised as legitimate grief. I still cry over my gorgeous Labrador 18 months on. Cry as much as you can, and hug your DC because they're hurting too, but just expressing it differently. It gets better, I promise xxx

MrsTerryPratchett Fri 22-May-15 21:13:39

If it makes you feel better, DD got bitten today at preschool. Very hard. And the parents got a dressing down from preschool. I wasn't bothered at all; DD is fine; she's no angel. So don't feel bad about the naughtiness at school. Is always got to be one child's turn. I'm just glad DD wasn't the instigator.

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