My dad went on holiday last week and decided to start smoking cigars again after a break of about a year. He was a heavy smoker of cigarettes when I was growing up and it took him a huge effort to stop smoking which he did, about a decade ago, due to declining health.
My baby is 6 months old and I phoned my parents last night and asked if I could come over for a visit today. My parents both know how anti-smoking I am; I used to work in a Stop Smoking project and I don't like being near smokers. They didn't tell me last night that my dad had started smoking again.
When I went to their house, the baby was sitting in her chair in the living room and my dad shut the door between the conservatory and the living room and lit up a cigar. I could smell it straight away; the baby's hat and cardigan and nursing bag were in there with him and I was really annoyed. I told my mum that she could have warned me that dad had started smoking again and she said I was being unreasonable because if I had been told, I wouldn't have brought the baby round for a visit, which is not true but a heads up would have been appreciated.
Am I being unreasonable to have expected a heads up that my dad had started smoking again when I intended to bring my 6 month old baby round to their house?
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AIBU to be annoyed that my father was smoking a cigar near my 6 month old baby?
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GiantHulkHands · 21/05/2015 18:05
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