5 weeks later, after an emotional outburst on my part for which I've apologised for profusely, still no contact from supposed 'best friend' of 25 years. I've contacted him since to ask after him, but on a day to day basis whereby we were normally speaking everyday, I'm not hearing from him at all. Nothing. I posted this on 'what would you do ' a few weeks ago, but only got one reply. I'm ready to send him a message saying "are you sulking? If so, think I've misjudged our friendship "If anyone can be bothered to read it here's my old post. Thanks in advance for any advice :
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06/05/2015 20:48 bananacarnival
Closest friend of the past 25 years is currently giving me the complete silent treatment and I feel as though he should be making contact with me, not vice versa.
In the past 9 months I've been going through some kind of a near breakdown. Lots of health issues, very depressed and lots of stress including lots of demands on me and my time, marital crisis, recent trauma etc
Best friend has spent some time with me but generally tries to avoid talking about my problems. Throughout our teens and twenties he's done more than his fair share of listening and I've always thought of him as my rock.
Recently he keeps asking me to meet up with him when our kids are at school,to talk about our shared interest - music, not much else... a bit too frequently for my liking- I've got a lot on. I generally say yes because I'm trying to support him as he was made redundant a year ago, also possibly depressed.
A few weeks ago he asked me to drive him somewhere (medical appointment) and I ended up waiting in the hot car for 2 hours, and cried because I was in a lot of pain - shoulders/ migraine. I needed to get things done and I couldn't.
When he returned to the car I sobbed my guts out as I drove us back, almost hysterical. I told him that I'm not well, I'm highly stressed and even more stressed now that I couldn't get things done... he said sorry several times quietly but remained stunned by my outburst.
Later that evening I sent him a message to say I'm deeply sorry for my outburst, that I wasn't angry with him but with the situation etc. He said he understands and was sad to see me that way and if he can help just ask.
That was 3 weeks ago. I haven’t heard anything. I feel that I've apologised - should I be the one to contact him again? We normally speak everyday.
I feel that a true friend would actually drop a quick line to say ' no pressure, but are you ok?'
Am I missing something here?
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bananacarnival · 15/05/2015 17:39
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