DD is 4 and her "best friend" is hateful to her! Don't get me wrong they are both feisty and my dd can stand up for herself to a certain point, but yesterday she came home from pre school crying again, because her bf had said spiteful things again and had hit her. On playdates they play well for all of 10 mins and then all hell breaks loose, the bf always starts it with horrible comments, shouting, pushing, my dd doesn't ever say mean things back or hit, but she does shout back and they end up screaming at each other. I'm fed up of giving dd 3 chances to play nicely then every time having to take away her favourite toy or carry through the threat of having to go home, when I feel like it's not even her fault, she's kind of been driven to shouting or screaming back. After another hellish 2 hrs the other day we left while the bf's mum had her hitting & screaming at her & my dd sobbing because her bf had hit her and said she hated her.
It always kicks off on play dates whereas when they're at pre school together it's more subtle, it's usually along the lines of; not letting anyone else play with dd, following them about if they do saying horrible things until they cry, she says if they tell a key worker she will hurt them, it's driven away a few good friends dd also had at pre school they are too scared to play with her! So I'm keeping up playdates with them in the meantime and telling dd she must tell a key worker, but she never does, her answer is to go and play with a little boy she likes and her bf isn't bothered by this for some reason, she will go off and play with a boy she likes, it's only with other girls.
They say they are best friends and have moments of being sweet to each other, but mostly what I witness is the bf being spiteful, shouting, snatching, saying silly things like she's the best at whatever it is they're doing, my dd will stand up for herself to a point, say she's being mean and tell me or bf's mum who tries to discipline her but it just kicks off again 10 mins later and dd is shouting back or wailing again. I've told dd we're having a break from playdates with her bf as she was so upset last time, and I was too but obv had to hide it!
Is this normal behaviour for 4 year old girls?! Aibu to want to stop this friendship? They start the same school in September and I'm dreading them being in the same class.
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Or is this normal for 4 yr old girls?!
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moochy1 · 15/05/2015 15:53
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