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AIBU?

Sibling rant

16 replies

Cluesue · 14/05/2015 16:17

Aibu,do not think I am but am ok about being wrong,just want to rant really.

I live quite remote from Dd1 school,non driver,no regular buses in evening,to hard to walk(over a mile all up steep hill,Dd1 has mobility issues)

Anyhow my Dd wanted to do after school club desperately,I said undo able sorry.

next day my sister rang to say,"put her name down and if she gets in I'll pick her up and bring her home" asked her was she absolutely sure she wanted to do this,having been ill with IBS(quite good at moment)etc,yes she was sure.

so 6 weeks of after school club commences,4 weeks in today she calls to say she has a problem and if it's not sorted could I arrange alternative,yes ok,let me know if you able to later,lunchtime comes,text sister to see if all ok,no reply,leave it til 2.15pm then ring her

She says"yes all sorted now"me "oh that's great" then she says"so how are you going to get Dd1 then(funnily enough I assumed as she was sorted,she would pick her up as normal)I just said "I'll sort it"and rang off as I was quite upset by this point upon realizing she had no intention of picking her up.

Have now had to arrange for a friend to pick her up and bring her home save dragging Dd2 out in this dreadful rain and waiting 45 mins for Dd1(because of time difference between bus arriving and club finishing,if I go myself it's a 45minute Wait for club to finish and then 2hr wait til next bus.

I was really pissed off,still am to be honest,do I have the right though

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Cluesue · 14/05/2015 16:19

Sorry after school club is only once a week

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balletnotlacrosse · 14/05/2015 16:20

It sounds like a mis-understanding. Your sister has been really good, collecting your dd for the last 4 wks. There's bound to be the odd evening that she can't do it.

Just get the lines clear next time.

CaptainAnkles · 14/05/2015 16:21

She shouldn't have offered if she couldn't commit to doing it every week really. Unforeseen things happen obviously, but if she was able to pick her up and chose not to, that's just unfair.

Cluesue · 14/05/2015 16:25

Yes she has been great to do it,told Dd1 we would buy her a nice bunch of flowers at the end as a thank you.

Just a bit miffed as she offered,I didn't ask and if it was an emergency or illness etc it's totally understandable,but she simply can't be bothered by the sounds of it

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Hobbes8 · 14/05/2015 16:28

But she already told you she couldn't pick her up, didn't she? Why did you wait until the last minute?

pictish · 14/05/2015 16:30

How old is the dd going to after school club?

00100001 · 14/05/2015 16:32

how is 1 mile way form a school in anyway "remote"???

00100001 · 14/05/2015 16:33

YABU - life happens. it was a misunderstanding :/

Flywheel · 14/05/2015 16:37

It sounds like a misunderstanding. She probably assumed after her initial contact that you had arranged an alternative. Are you sure she wouldn't have offered to collect her once she realised you hadn't anything arranged?

Cluesue · 14/05/2015 16:37

She said could I arrange alternative in case she couldn't,which I did, so that dd1 could still go,she said she would let me know if she got it sorted.

Dd1 is 9

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00100001 · 14/05/2015 16:38

good lord... will this be remembered in 6 months time???

Move on. it was a misunderstanding!

Icimoi · 14/05/2015 16:40

Sorry, off the point, if your DD has medically recognised mobility issues she might qualify for the provision of home to school transport. I know that doesn't help with the after school club, but it might help for other purposes.

pictish · 14/05/2015 16:45

I can understand you needing a bus to get home with dd1 owing to her mobility issue but I don't get why you need to get a bus there? It's only a mile, you won't perish even if it's uphill. Neither will you or dd2 dissolve in the rain.
I think your sister has been great bringing dd1 home thus far. She gave you plenty of notice this morning.
Overall yabu.

kewtogetin · 14/05/2015 16:47

Why do you need to get a bus if it's only a mile??

DinosaursRoar · 14/05/2015 16:55

Is DD2 school age? If not, and you can get away with having a buggy still for her, then get a buggy board for DD1, or even let her sit in it for the walk back if her mobility issues are bad. Other options, can you pull her along on a scooter?

A mile isn't very far, and surely it's only uphill one way, if it's downhill on the way back, then a scooter might be ideal.

Jackie0 · 14/05/2015 17:10

I think her ," all sorted " was supposed to have a question mark, that would have made more sense.

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