Ok. Abit of back story so as not to dripfeed. SIL (husbands sis) lived overseas, as in 11 hour flight, until recently. She and her DH have just moved back over here. Until then they had never met DS2 (3yo). We used to get on great with them in uni days but drifted apart when they moved away to the point of bare contact a few times a year. They've never shown any interest in Our DCs which my family find odd and think that means they're awful. We (DH and I) would obviously rather they were interested but still like them etc.
My sister is awesome. Seriously amazing. Helps us so much with our DC- hers are fully grown now. And is just generally an amazing support in our lives. We spend a lot of time with her as do our kids.
Since SIL and BIL have moved back we have started to see them. They are DHs only family and they're lovely, we all get on etc. One of the reasons they moved back was to be closer to us. We knew my sister would struggle with this as SIL and my sister don't get on- totally different people, personality clash etc. and my sister does struggle with jealously in terms of people spending time with our DC- she's quite insecure.
Now all this would be fine and we would just (as we have been) make sure my sisters time with us and kids isn't altered on account of SIL as my sister has always been there for us and is fab but not pander to her and pretend SIL doesn't exist iyswim?
But. At the weekend my sister looked after our 3yo ds and when I returned she said lots of things that ds had allegedly said about SIL (nothing nasty- the opposite) in front of ds. Made a huge song and dance about it and made ds feel terrible. The problem is I just do not believe that ds has said any of it! It's stuff he couldn't even think let alone articulate. Now ds feels sad that he's upset my sister and she thinks he likes SIL more!!! But I know my ds. He will not have said the things she said he did, it is I'm sure just her way of getting her insecurities out there. But it's putting my little ds in an awful position. And the amount of info she's gotten out of him about what he's done with them- she must have literally quizzed him the whole time we were gone as he is not a big talker about stuff he's done and she literally knew every detail. When we took him home he said she's asked him too many questions!
Should I say something? If so what? Or just let it go? I have no proof!
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To 'confront' my sister with no evidence other than a hunch?
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WhinersAreWeners · 05/05/2015 18:22
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