To say no to a puppy even though I'm good at training them?

(17 Posts)
NKfell Tue 05-May-15 15:48:01

Me and 2 kids (5 and 2) have just moved into their Daddy's house and I have 2 dogs already- rottweiler and a border collie who are both well mannered and beautifully trained.

I love dogs and harp on a lot (showing off) about how training puppies is easy, I enjoy it etc. -This has now become a rod for my own back.

DP wants a puppy...his friend's dog has had puppies that will be ready around 30 June. A Standard Poodle who's parents are both big so these are expected to be huge. I'm due 8 July.

AIBU? Just because I enjoy training and under normal circumstances don't usually find it (particularly) stressful doesn't mean I want to be puppy training so close to due date and immediately after birth.

He doesn't pull his weight with the dogs at the moment so his promises of doing everything mean nothing.

MrsTerryPratchett Tue 05-May-15 16:09:17

If he pulls his weight for a year, you'll reconsider? Double purpose of getting some help and then, if not, making sure he knows why.

Droflove Tue 05-May-15 17:15:22

I would not get a puppy with a new baby ever again. Total nightmare. Tell him to wait a year and if he still wants a pup then, you can think about it together.

villainousbroodmare Tue 05-May-15 17:19:45

YANBU smile

Sootgremlin Tue 05-May-15 17:27:37

Yanbu, new puppy and new baby ridiculous amount of work.

But, I have a 16 month old and can't commit to a guinea pig yet for the same reason smile

PacificDogwood Tue 05-May-15 17:29:16

YANBU. At all.

Does he have any dog/puppy experience? Or newborn experience for that matter? grin

NKfell Tue 05-May-15 17:34:45

I will quite happily have a new little puppy in a year or so- I'll relish in showing off my skills but new baby + new puppy + existing 2yr old + 2 existing adult dogs sounds like it will = stress and mess!

My 2 yr old still needs 'watching' with the dogs- she's 2 so can be a bit rough etc. imagine that plus puppy training plus newborn baby.

DP hasn't grown up with dogs and I think he thinks they just morph into my 2- which he still isn't great at! My 5 yr old says "daddy, we need to feed the dogs" or "Daddy, the dogs need more water" if I'm not in.

NKfell Tue 05-May-15 17:36:04

We've never lived together so no puppy or newborn experience really- he was around for the other 2 but, never had the sleepless nights! He had the cuddly, sleepy side of a newborn!

Owllady Tue 05-May-15 17:40:27

I'm more intrigued why you didn't live together before if he is the children's dad but I'm just being bloody nosey grin

Of course you aren't being unreasonable. Dogs are a huge commitment and expense!

NKfell Tue 05-May-15 17:50:10

owllady I know it sounds weird! We were always a bit off and on and I'm particularly independent! TBH if I'd had a happier looking bank balance me and the kids would've just moved into a bigger house instead of to his- but that's another story!

Instead, he's trying to make me eat my words about puppy training. Don't get me started on the cost, £750!

PacificDogwood Tue 05-May-15 21:04:39

Ok, it sounds like he has No Clue what he is talking about grin - stand firm!

And when the time is right get a rescue puppy - there's plenty to go around, pedigree an'all smile

Owllady Tue 05-May-15 21:36:46

It doesn't sound weird smile we all do what is right for us. But, don't let him railroad you into getting a puppy. You have two large, bright dogs already and don't want another and you have two young children too. Make life easier, not harder

RandomMess Tue 05-May-15 21:40:32

"no" is a complete sentence grin

RandomMess Tue 05-May-15 21:41:07

Is there any chance that he realises you will be more dependent on him with a newborn and a puppy..

pilates Tue 05-May-15 22:15:44

Don't do it.

NKfell Wed 06-May-15 13:19:48

Thank you everyone!

I'm so pleased I posted- I spoke to him last night (and this morning) but was standing strong feeling firmly in the right! grin

sonjadog Wed 06-May-15 13:22:59

Definitely don't do it. Puppies are a lot of work and if you aren't completely commited to it, it won't be a good experience for you or the puppy.

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